re: husbands

I hear you stalkerbitch. smurf does happen. My friend from up north has an ex too at the age of 21.

Quoting ♥Jessie♥:" Whoa. I would just have a discussion about how that made you feel. To be honest if my hubby told me ... [snip!] ... wishes. Maybe nicely mention how you feel about the ex-wife at the same time. If you want that respect show it to him first."

Their married. He is going through her cellphone and says she cannot hear anything he says to his ex-wife...

Yeah, I'd put my foot down.

Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" Their married. He is going through her cellphone and says she cannot hear anything he says to his ex-wife... Yeah, I'd put my foot down. "

Yes. I agree. She should put her foot down but I don't think not allowing him access to her phone is the answer. They are married. It shouldn't be a problem for her to listen or him to check out her phone. IMO. I am not saying she should let him off the hook for being a douche. I just don't agree with your solution.

Quoting ♥Jessie♥:" Yes. I agree. She should put her foot down but I don't think not allowing him access to her phone is ... [snip!] ... out her phone. IMO. I am not saying she should let him off the hook for being a douche. I just don't agree with your solution."

She feels she has to sleep with her phone under her pillow.... might as well just say "don't touch it" and get pissed if he does.

I agree with talking, but I'm sure OP already as talked about it. Women do talk, it's the first thing we think to do with our SO/DH. It's when the guy ignores the talk that we need to vent because it keeps happening... KWIM?

it seems like my feelings don't matter to him. don't get me wrong, we both love each other very much so. But things have changed alot from what happened in the past until now. I waited about 14 years to get married. I just got married about 2 years ago. He tried three times to get a divorce from her she kept on saying no. She thought that she will get him back. But she was wrong. she flipped out once she found out that I was pregnant.

Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" She feels she has to sleep with her phone under her pillow.... might as well just say "don't touch it" ... [snip!] ... we think to do with our SO/DH. It's when the guy ignores the talk that we need to vent because it keeps happening... KWIM?"

yes that is true....he does ignore.