Difficulty breaking up

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Well if yo can save up money first then leave. If you do not work then look up local shelters that could take you in and/or find a job to help get on your feet. Call family and friends to help you. If our SO is the father of your DD then go through the courts to setup custody support and visitations. That way your daughter still has him in her life and you don't have to have him in your life for more then picking up or dropping off your daughter.

Quoting Clk:" Well if yo can save up money first then leave. If you do not work then look up local shelters that could ... [snip!] ... still has him in her life and you don't have to have him in your life for more then picking up or dropping off your daughter."

I guess I should look into alternative housing then, that would be a start. I didn't want it to end this way, well I suppose no one does at the beginning. I don't know how to do all that court stuff but I could easily find out... I don't think he would even care though tbh. I said to him earlier when our house contract runs out will he want to live with me when I move and he said 'go to where you came from'. I said how would he see DD then and in so many words he basically said who gives a smurf. He's an ass hat.

Quoting Ellie Shikari:" I guess I should look into alternative housing then, that would be a start. I didn't want it to end ... [snip!] ... where you came from'. I said how would he see DD then and in so many words he basically said who gives a smurf. He's an ass hat."

Well you never know he may decide he does want to see his daughter once you leave. Yeah alternative housing is good place to start at.

It took me 8yrs to leave. I didn't understand with all the hatred and anger, why he wouldn't leave, so I stuck around, hoping that we could reach a point where we both knew it was best. It never happened. In the end, I was the "bad guy", and I ripped off the bandaid. Hardest thing I ever did. Best thing I ever did. He disappeared for 16mo, didn't talk to me or his son. But he just started coming around again and now we're in a place where we can be nice to each other, and have both moved on with new spouses, children, etc.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ellie Shikari:</b>" I guess I should look into alternative housing then, that would be a start. I didn't want it to end ... [snip!] ... where you came from'. I said how would he see DD then and in so many words he basically said who gives a smurf. He's an ass hat."</blockquote>



Go to citizens advice! They can help you with housing and legal stuff. Or even your local council.

Quoting lilredsmurfy:" It took me 8yrs to leave. I didn't understand with all the hatred and anger, why he wouldn't leave, so ... [snip!] ... again and now we're in a place where we can be nice to each other, and have both moved on with new spouses, children, etc."

I hope I can do the same one day, it's for the best, I know it deep down.

Quoting ßεχ™:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ellie Shikari:</b>" I guess I should look into alternative ... [snip!] ... hat."</blockquote> Go to citizens advice! They can help you with housing and legal stuff. Or even your local council."

Yeah, I went once before when I was pregnant but they made me cry lmao, apparently I have to have lived here for six years before they will house me? :/ Seems unfair. And I don't want to go back to Nottingham. (Too many bad memories, bad people etc). I might try them again now I'm in more of a fit state to argue lol.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ellie Shikari:</b>" Yeah, I went once before when I was pregnant but they made me cry lmao, apparently I have to have lived ... [snip!] ... to Nottingham. (Too many bad memories, bad people etc). I might try them again now I'm in more of a fit state to argue lol."</blockquote>


God that's awful!! You do get some smurfs there though. The council will have to do something because you have DD now. I would get a letter from your landlord saying when your contract runs out and that you have to be out by then, which you do, which would leave you and DD homeless if you leave your SO. They have to do something then and you'll be banded pretty high because your seen as potentially homeless. Just make a point that you have to leave your SO because of various reasons, not just because you don't love him etc. You will need to make a point that your not intentionally making yourself homeless, you are doing it for you and DD.

Quoting ßεχ™:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ellie Shikari:</b>" Yeah, I went once before when I was pregnant ... [snip!] ... him etc. You will need to make a point that your not intentionally making yourself homeless, you are doing it for you and DD."

Okay, thanks! I will definitely take your advice. They can't expect me to go back to somewhere I haven't lived for over a year, my home is here now.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ellie Shikari:</b>" Okay, thanks! I will definitely take your advice. They can't expect me to go back to somewhere I haven't lived for over a year, my home is here now."</blockquote>




Good luck   and I hope things work out!

Quoting ßεχ™:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ellie Shikari:</b>" Okay, thanks! I will definitely take your ... [snip!] ... I haven't lived for over a year, my home is here now."</blockquote> Good luck   and I hope things work out!"

Thank you!

 

BD and I went through this embarassing stage of breaking up and getting back together... near the end it got so bad I stopped telling anyone, lol. I would begin the process of getting over the heartbreak and he'd come crawling back with some elaborate story about how he was going to be homeless and it wasn't his fault   I always took him back and figured we could just work on our relationship. Eventually he started getting abusive and I couldn't do it anymore so I kicked him out and went on that long hard road of moving on, I even took him to court. Every time we broke up though, he left and I kept the place... I look back and don't know how I did it, I never made enough money lol.

Yeah, I would keep the house except I always paid the rent and he paid the bills, so I don't think I could afford the bills on my own.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ellie Shikari:</b>" Yeah, I would keep the house except I always paid the rent and he paid the bills, so I don't think I could afford the bills on my own. "</blockquote>




If you're on your own and its just your income you should get some housing benefit help. Especially if you are in receipt of income support. Get your tax credits in too.