Pet peeves [rare DH vent]

The two big neon buttons my husband is pushing this week---and this is a guy that most of the time is amazing, so it's only worse when we have a rough week!

1. When I say dinner is ready, butts need to be seated at the table ASAP. You drop whatever and come straight to the table.

***last night he made DS clean his entire room before dinner. Even though they had barely started when I called to say it was done. So, DS tried to jump and run to the table and DH put him in time out (understandable) and then made him finish cleaning the whole thing---our nightly routine involves cleaning after bath (dinner, bath, cleanup, teeth, jammies, books, bed). I was confused as hell and waited 25 mins for them to come and finally ate my food before it was totally cold---all without DH letting me know what was happening at all...and then DS spent the remainder of his night confused as to what he was supposed to be doing as his routine was off.

2--when I am in the process of cooking, you don't come in and make yourself food and eat a huge portion---it's rude and disrespectful of the time and energy I put into preparing a meal for the family.

Tonight I was chopping veggies to cook and DH comes in, pulls out the huge serving bowl of salad I keep in the fridge for lunches/sides. He planned to eat from the serving bowl (about 3-4 servings of salad) while I cooked. I' just felt like if he's perfectly happy to eat a thrown together meal, why do I bother to cook!?! It was 5:45, not like I waited to cook til 8pm!!! Then he got pissed when I calmly said "can you please wait until dinner. I'm cooking as fast as I can and would prefer if we'd all eat together because [DS] will ask for food as soon as you start eating" and he got pissed and stormed off and is giving me the cold shoulder (2hrs later!!!) and refused to eat with us until DS said he had to come---all because "I was just hungry! I'm allowed to eat whenever I want!"

Dude, I cook every one of your meals and pack your lunches and know damn sure you've eaten way more than enough to last you til I'm done frigging cooking!!! Gah!!!

Just irritated as hell because those are my pet peeves and I'm hormonal and just needed to vent!

That's so irritating! DH did it tonight too, he came in and cooked a burger at 5 when I had the pizza dough resting and was just grating cheese and cutting veggies.

Gah Dh does that to hate when he come in and starts eating random things while i'm cookingmakes me mad

DH knows that dinner is MY thing (in11years I can count on one hand the number of times he has made a whole meal for me other than an omelette---usually he will grill the meat 1-2 times a week but I marinade, assemble, etc and do the sides)

Do NOT mess with my thing!!!

I hear ya. Mine will come home from work, see me cooking dinner, announce "I gotta poop" and disappear for almost an hour...even after I've called to him to tell him it's done. Sorry, NO ONE smurfs for an hour. I get annoyed because I wait for him before I eat. I make sure to start dinner at just the right time so it will be hot when he gets home. And by the time he's done smurfin' around in the bathroom, it's cold.

Or I'll wait a little longer to start dinner because of the aforementioned issue, and he'll come home and start talking about how hungry he is and will make himself a friggin' sandwich... And then he hardly touches his dinner.

Men. Like yours, mine is completely awesome most of the time, but sometimes I just wanna wring his neck LOL.

Those are my pet peeves too!

I especially hate when he comes home from work, knowing dinner will be on the table, and says "Oh, I just ate before I left work." Well then you better be ready to eat more because you knew dinner would be ready. =X

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~*Flibbertigibbet*~:</b>" I hear ya. Mine will come home from work, see me cooking dinner, announce "I gotta poop" and disappear ... [snip!] ... his dinner. Men. Like yours, mine is completely awesome most of the time, but sometimes I just wanna wring his neck LOL."</blockquote>




My DH will sit on his arse (he lives 10 mins from work, so I usually start food when he's on the way home --he texts-- so it's about 20 mins after he gets home so he has to change over out of his uniform...usually leaving him about 10 mins to spare) and then wait until I call dinner and act like as soon as he stands up the urge to poo or 20 minutes is suddenly there and can't be ignored for even a minute---so he'll try to hurry while I dish up food, serve it to the table, get out cups/drinks/condiments/etc and get DS settled...then keep DS occupied while we wait a few more minutes for Daddy to crap.

Once good is done, my DS wants to EAT (but not til we say "father spirit grace"---which is his phrase for our catholic version of the meal blessing we do before we eat).

It's a big hassle and makes me crazy!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nicola =):</b>" Those are my pet peeves too! I especially hate when he comes home from work, knowing dinner will be ... [snip!] ... says "Oh, I just ate before I left work." Well then you better be ready to eat more because you knew dinner would be ready. =X"</blockquote>



Amen!

What? Are they eating just in case they get lost on the way home!?!

Dinner is between 6-7 PM EVERY NIGHT for eleven damn years! What is so damn hard to predict about that!?! If you have to skip lunch and don't get a chance to eat til 4pm when things slack off at work a little, why eat the ENTIRE thing and come home not hungry? I can't push dinner back and make your child starve evasive you aren't hungry yet!

Bah!

He's still cold-shouldering me. Screw him and his crappy attitude! I saved my legs and lotioned and hygiened the heck out of myself, so I'm in a good mood now!

Quoting P Pickle Pants:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Nicola =):</b>" Those are my pet peeves too! I especially hate ... [snip!] ... Screw him and his crappy attitude! I saved my legs and lotioned and hygiened the heck out of myself, so I'm in a good mood now!"

Men   lol.

I guess if the worst our men do is eat while we are cooking we should be thankful... BUT its extremely irritating!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nicola =):</b>" Men   lol. I guess if the worst our men do is eat while we are cooking we should be thankful... BUT its extremely irritating!"</blockquote>

It's not just the poor dinner etiquette, its the attitude when I call him on it. Haha. dH has the worst pregnancy PMS this time around! Even his mom commented on his moodiness and DS gets reprimanded at a lot when normally DH would be laughing with him---I think it's because I'm high risk and he's worried all the time and jumpy and anxious so it has him on edge. I'm hoping once I get past viability he'll calm the F down!

Quoting P Pickle Pants:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Nicola =):</b>" Men   lol. I guess if the worst our men ... [snip!] ... worried all the time and jumpy and anxious so it has him on edge. I'm hoping once I get past viability he'll calm the F down!"

Good luck! With the baby and the male PMS! haha

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nicola =):</b>" Good luck! With the baby and the male PMS! haha"</blockquote>



Ha! Thanks.

I'm gonna start slipping midol in his morning smoothie if he keeps it up!

i hte when im cooking dinner and chris is STARVING and has to eat something before hand.. im hungry too but im waiting. lol

hey it could be alot worse : ) you have a good hubs, and I totally understand where you are coming.

Haha... I see this is my head and I'm sure what was "nicely asking him" was not as nice as you thought... Why must all men be well men? Even the good ones makes us want to wring their necks!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jae=Devin & Jordyns Mommy:</b>" Haha... I see this is my head and I'm sure what was "nicely asking him" was not as nice as you thought... Why must all men be well men? Even the good ones makes us want to wring their necks!"</blockquote>


Actually I was being super sweet because I was in a good mood and my 4 day migraine was at a dull roar and ax had been sweet all day...

It was literally said in a totally conversational and offhand manner without any attitude at all---which is rare from me!