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Have you thought about going to counselling?

Quoting Kati ♥:" Have you thought about going to counselling?"

Yes! but he doesn't feel that we need one  

Have you tried telling him how you feel?
I mean, just handing him divorce papers one day might come as a shock to him.

Talk to him, and then try counseling.

Quoting ♥Mama Constantine:" Have you tried telling him how you feel? I mean, just handing him divorce papers one day might come as a shock to him. Talk to him, and then try counseling. "

I have, I try saying how I feel which leads us to arguing and than I give up because I'd rather not be yelling back and forth. I hate that a simple conversation turns into us arguing.

I've told him about counseling but he doesn't feel as if we need it. Says I am making the situation seem bigger than it actually is.

Quoting Estrella ♥ Luna:" I have, I try saying how I feel which leads us to arguing and than I give up because I'd rather not be ... [snip!] ... told him about counseling but he doesn't feel as if we need it. Says I am making the situation seem bigger than it actually is."

Maybe it's just a phase you're both going through. Have a night out, and see if that helps.

Quoting ♥Mama Constantine:" Maybe it's just a phase you're both going through. Have a night out, and see if that helps. "

I might just take LO and sleep at my parents house for a night.

Tough one...
I have only been married for 8 years but we have had our fair share of ups and downs.
We almost divorced in 2007
What we did was, we shut up
No accusing,no nagging, no putting down
When we spoke we watched what we said.
I started it by saying I love you, I miss you, and because of this I will do my best to be what you need for you. And maybe if you love me you might join in with me to fight for us?

It took a few months. I literally thought I hated him at times.
But if he refused to help me with what i needed help with , I didn't say anything.
now we are best friends again. He is not emotionally support like I would like, and I may not be perfect for him, but we love each other.



Force yourself to take the extra step to kiss him, to tell him bye, have a good day.

If it means something to you,if your relationship seems like there may be a glimmer of hope, do the extra steps. He will join in. It is hard to be married , but it will unfold into something wonderful

Quoting AriRyLi:" Tough one... I have only been married for 8 years but we have had our fair share of ups and downs. We ... [snip!] ... of hope, do the extra steps. He will join in. It is hard to be married , but it will unfold into something wonderful"

I've tried to take the extra step! It's just he will be so rude that I can't fake being nice back. I do love him like I said, I love him to death. If we were to get a divorce I know I wouldn't be caught dead with another man for a long time. I have no attraction to any other men but he is just making me feel like I am completely alone in this marriage.

He has a son with his ex. I am very close to her and we get along perfectly well. I love her son as if he were my own but DH spends unlimited time with his son that doesn't compare to his spending time with our little girl. I don't want to sound selfish or rude or insane etc. But seeing as we LIVE together I feel as if he should be spending a great amount of time with our little girl as much as he spends with him.

I spend a lot of time with his son and take him almost everywhere with me when he is over so don't get me wrong when I say he spends a lot of time with him.

Things lately just have not been the same. I'd like to think he isn't cheating on me but in all honesty, there is a great chance he is.

I'm not going to actually divorce him as of now, but I'm saying I DO feel as if I want to do it in the near future if things do not change soon. I just want things to go back to how we were before when we actually spent a ton of time together and he would get home as early as he could unless I was on my job.

I feel like im talking all over the place but that's just how my mind is currently working, all over the place