re: Curious

Quoting κατι:" I'd look at him like he's crazy,because i don't need to lose weight. lol."

 

I would tell my SO that he is absolutely batsmurf crazy because he is a beanpole and needs to gain weight. I think he weighs about 110 pounds with soaking wet clothes on lol. I would however agree with him that i need to lose weight and i would be glad if he wanted to exercise with me.

We already want to work out together and eat healthier and we have been working on it....well, we were until I got bad morning sickness ta about 6 weeks and I feel like I've been hit by a train.

I've been feeling a bit better lately, so back on track next time we go grocery shopping. He's about 10 years older than me, though, so he's concerned about his metabolism and he KNOWS I am not 100% happy with how I am right now, so we may as well do it together.

Quoting Conservative MAMA:" as to how you would feel if your SO/DH mentioned to you that he wanted you to loose weight with him?! "

First, I'd wonder what the hell is wrong with him because he likes women with some extra meat...

Then I'd probably be offended. I know I have a weight issue, I don't need anyone to point it out. And he doesn't need to lose, soooo, it'd would be directed at me only.

I think I'm the only one so far that will admit I'd be embarrassed and hurt.

I wouldn't let him know that, of course, but I would be so embarrassed and would become very self-conscious of my body.

We were both pretty fit or getting to that point before pregnancy... now we are both fat blobs (I have an excuse though, I have a human growing inside of me... he is just fat!  ). We both know that we will be working out together and eating right together again, but it's not something we say.

Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" I think I'm the only one so far that will admit I'd be embarrassed and hurt. I wouldn't let him know ... [snip!] ...  ). We both know that we will be working out together and eating right together again, but it's not something we say. "

Nope, I would be.

Quoting Conservative MAMA:" as to how you would feel if your SO/DH mentioned to you that he wanted you to loose weight with him?! "

I'd be thrilled. I'd like to suggest it to him but he'd be mad and insulted when there is absolutely no need to be.
It's sooooo much easier to change an eating habit when those around you are also changing. My husband would prefer to eat a steady diet of crap and candy plus a small salad smothered in dressig and croutons. I'm a healthy influenc on him but there is only so much i can do.

Dh HAS said he wants us to lose weight. lol I can't be mad. we both need to lose some fat. me more than him. So after this baby, that's the plan! I want to lose 80 and I think he wants to lose 40.

Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" I think I'm the only one so far that will admit I'd be embarrassed and hurt. I wouldn't let him know ... [snip!] ...  ). We both know that we will be working out together and eating right together again, but it's not something we say. "

See, if SO was super skinny (well, he is "skinny", but not like what he used to be) and he just came out and said "hey, let's lose weight" I would be kind of hurt, but in our case, it stems from me already wanting it and him taking a weight lifting class for his PE credit in school, so I'm not offended.

But I'm with IcePrincess - my SO like thick chicks, so it would be weird if he worded it in a "weight" kind of way, but luckily we BOTH approached it from a health standpoint. If it had been him and only him and he brought it up to me from purely a weight standpoint, I would kind of be hurt.

Quoting LolaMcKitten:" See, if SO was super skinny (well, he is "skinny", but not like what he used to be) and he just came ... [snip!] ... If it had been him and only him and he brought it up to me from purely a weight standpoint, I would kind of be hurt. "

SO also likes "curves" as he puts it. But we both are very active and do martial arts and stuff like that together, and I cook healthy.

It would hurt if he mentioned weight to me... the only person who can mention my weight and not offend me is my mom. I used to be HUGE, like I'm 5 feet tall and weighed close to 300 pounds, so yeah, I have body issues! hahaha (I was down to 140 before getting pregnant this time.)

Honestly? I would appreciate it because it shows a sense of concern for not only my health but also my appearance, both of which are very important in life regardless of how much people might argue otherwise.

Then again we are both admittedly vain. We joked about weight gain being a plausible reason for divorce back around the time we got married and considered drawing up a prenuptial agreement. We are attracted to one another the way we are right now and quite honestly if he were to gain a lot of weight I would be very upset and not just because I would find it unattractive but because I would find it dangerous and subsequently selfish. A lot of weight gain would eventually lead to a high chance of experiencing health issues and quite honestly I feel like that's an irresponsible thing to do when you have a family that loves you.

I'll get smurf for saying it but whatever. (And by the way I'm not talking just a little weight, I'm talking morbid obesity which has been proven time and time again to shorten a person's lifespan as well as lower their quality of life.)