Not so happy:( (vent)

Well this is my Ex's weekend to get my daughter and I really hate giving her up:'( Yes it's better than him always having her but......he uses her to get girls. When I first found out I was pregnant he didn't want anything to do with it. And I didn't hear anything from him during the entire pregnancy or for 7 months after her birth and then he decides he wants a DNA test and visitation. Yes I'm glad he wants to be apart of her life but he is doing it for all the wrong reasons. And it's really his mother who wants to be involved with her. All he cares about is girls drinking and partying with his friends, while his mom is taking care of her on His weekend. He get every other weekend and Wednesdays. And he really never spends time with her on his days. It pisses me off so bad because he is careless and I don't want her around that. I brought it up in court but his mom is always covering his ass when he messes up. Ugh I do everything in my power to be the best mom I can be and I feel like he gets everything handed to him. Ugh sorry I just needed to vent. Don't need any rude comments I just have no one to talk to and I been holding it in for a while.

It's hard that her Dad sucks, but at least she has a Grandma who seems like she loves and cares for her. Don't think of it as her going to see her Dad every other weekend, think of it as Grandma time.

Well at least she is getting to know her grandma. She has a right to know her dad's family regardless of what you think of it. And he has a right to spend his time parenting her however he sees fit, just as you do yours. It's what happens when you have a child with someone: you don't always get to make all the choices in how the baby is parented.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Crystal Marie S.:</b>" It's hard that her Dad sucks, but at least she has a Grandma who seems like she loves and cares for her. Don't think of it as her going to see her Dad every other weekend, think of it as Grandma time."</blockquote>




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Quoting *Maci's*Mommy*:" Well this is my Ex's weekend to get my daughter and I really hate giving her up:'( Yes it's better than ... [snip!] ... sorry I just needed to vent. Don't need any rude comments I just have no one to talk to and I been holding it in for a while."

i know how it feels to have shared custody. but im very thankful my daughters dad ended up stepping up and taking her. hes a good daddy, and im glad i got blessed with that.

i hope things work out for oyou.

Quoting Fatty McRunnerPants:" Well at least she is getting to know her grandma. She has a right to know her dad's family regardless ... [snip!] ... It's what happens when you have a child with someone: you don't always get to make all the choices in how the baby is parented."

This. If you went out when you had your child and your Mom watched your child for you... you wouldn't complain, now would you? Unless he's abusing your child you really can't dictate what he does during that time. If he's neglecting her, sure, but his family has the right to see her and develop a relationship, and if he goes out... that's okay too. It really is.

I do not believe that a child HAS to have both parents! I'm tired of the misconception that you need a daddy. I grew up not knowing my father and my mother was more then enough! Maybe talk to gma and let her know what's going on. Trust me, my mom loves my son more then me and his mother will love your daughter more too.

Quoting Rachael Connolly:" I do not believe that a child HAS to have both parents! I'm tired of the misconception that you need ... [snip!] ... and let her know what's going on. Trust me, my mom loves my son more then me and his mother will love your daughter more too."

Of course they don't have to have both parents. BUT who's to say which parent it should be? Maybe it should be the moms who don't have the children. Because we're enablers and such. Point: you have a child with somoene you're most likely going to be parenting with that person for a LONG time if that other person wants to be invovled. Whether you agree or not on the style. Get along or not. You're stuck. So suck in the smurf up buttercup.