Quoting Mother of 4 :" Some people find it nice to have a intact one, I find it weird, I don't find it gross, just that there ... [snip!] ... with peeing, and a year old she had to do because it was pinching the urinary tract closed. from the skin being to tight."
Is your Dr a pediatric urologist? pediatricians don't give toddlers & preschoolers circs. They just don't. NOT included in their training I would be a little concerned if she represented that she had in fact done them.
As far as 3 other Dr's telling you to pull it back - where I am from that's a common thing for Dr's to say...so I can't just "get another Dr" since the next Dr will same the same ignorant crap too. You probably live in a high circ rate area like I do & the Dr's just don't actually take the time to educate themselves on the normal healthy foreskin & what it should & shouldn't do & when & all of that. It really sucks because I have to play interference even on normal well checks just to keep someone from messing up my kid's penis. You are absolutely wrong though if you think you can't find good info online I have several things I've printed out from medical sites I take with me to hand to ignorant Dr's on visits so they can read that they aren't up to date on their education & NO medical association recommend retracting young boys anymore. They all agree it is damaging to the tissue & is the most common culprit for issues that alter lead to circs. If what I am able to find through online research is good enough to change my Dr's mind (and it did) then clearly - it is not a load of rubbish on opinions. It's fact based stuff.
You may not mean to sound ignorant - but you do in fact sound very ignorant on the topic. When people say the skin is fused
, they don't mean there will be no movement to the skin. That isn't "loose" any more than the skin on the scrotum is "loose" & not attached to the body. What they mean is, it is attached down the shaft & will not slide back to expose the penis. THAT is what attached/fused means. When you say poop gets under it - it doesn't...ever. The same type of connective tissue that holds your nail to your nailbed holds the shaft skin to the shaft. That doesn't mean it is rigged. It is sort of how you can put a finger in the back of your other hand & skid slide the skin around, yet clearly your skin is still attached to your hand. Same idea. And as far as attache dliek your nails - it is like you saying you have to peel your nails off to get yourself clean...obviously - you clean dirt from around the nail, you don't pry up your fingernails to clean under them - same idea. When I change a poopy diaper I wash my hands after, I don't pry my nails of fin case any got down there. Same with my kid's penis. The scrotum is harder to clean as I sometimes seem to get poop stuck on the ridges/wrinkles...lol
And the other thing we wrongly teach in the state is to use soap on genitals. If you want to get a bacteria or yeast infection feel free to scrub your vag out with soap. Same with intact males. the reason most men who have infection issue shave them is that they are wrongly approaching their cleaning routine - not that they lack hygiene. I find it so sad that men who are trying to hard to "do it right" get accused of being dirty. It is that "dirty" myth of foreskin that leads to infection. The body knows how to clean itself. Your vag knows how to keep itself clean - if you start using soapy douches & other things you mess with pH & cause a whole host of issues. A little water on a regular basis works wonders.
Look - do whatever - but this is why your insurance won't cover it. If you leave it be & don't monkey with it & do all sorts of unneeded things like pulling it back & all that, then it needs VERY little to keep it healthy. So while it may have potential benefits - they are potential & they apparently, from the standpoint of many insurance companies, aren't costly enough to warrant paying for every male to get done. If a cost analysis showed that they were paying more for treatment of things that circ can supposedly "prevent" believe me, they'd be the first to promote it - but since it isn't cost effective for them, they see it as an elective