What if?

Last night i was contemplating having my induction sooner. (I am 41 weeks and 4? days) I saw my dr about some pain that was up under my ribs and they were worried baby flipped or something. Turns out he just decded my ribs are a great place to have moved his feet to and doesnt seem to want them to move. My DR doesnt want to do induction till next week because baby was good at my NST and i have plenty of amnoitc fluid. Which is fine because now I am scared I wont be a good mom.

What if he asks to many questions about his dad and rather then doing the answers i plan on (which is just say the nice stuff about his dad never the negative) what if i screw up and tell him his dad is a lieing peice of crap and cheater (because thats how the dad is). How do I play both mom and dad? What if I really let my son down and cant give him everything he deserves? Pregnancy wasnt intended to happen until I was married and done with college now I am alone and have no college and am about to raise a baby. Its all suddenly so real. Its kinda scary.

So, What IF i mess up? What if I'm not a good enough mom in his eyes?

Did anyone else feel like this when they got close to having their first?

honestly if they are worried he might flip and you arent definitely over your due date then don't feel bad doing it soon

BREATHE. I think you're over thinking stuff hun. You'll figure out everything in time.

Quoting Kati ♥:" BREATHE. I think you're over thinking stuff hun. You'll figure out everything in time."

i agree definitely over thinking it

Quoting ::1st:: Time Mommy:" Last night i was contemplating having my induction sooner. (I am 41 weeks and 4? days) I saw my dr about ... [snip!] ... up? What if I'm not a good enough mom in his eyes? Did anyone else feel like this when they got close to having their first?"

OMG I had the same problem. But I guess I always hoped that she would never ask about her father. But do NOT stress about it. Once you're a mommy and that time comes, you'll cross that bridge in a breeze. Mommy brain kicks in ASAP. Lol

When it come to baby daddy issue I'm right there with you. My son's "father" cheated on me when lo was 3m and I left him. At 6m he walked out on my son. I will tell him the truth and explain to him the blood doesn't make up a family love does. He will know his "father" didn't want to be and hopefully come that time he will have a daddy.

Quoting ::1st:: Time Mommy:" Last night i was contemplating having my induction sooner. (I am 41 weeks and 4? days) I saw my dr about ... [snip!] ... up? What if I'm not a good enough mom in his eyes? Did anyone else feel like this when they got close to having their first?"

I had to quit school and the life that I had for my son. I worried constantly, and one of the things I honestly worried about was not loving my son like most moms do. I did not want to resent my child, but I hated being pregnant with a passion. I thought I was going to mess everything up, that I would not be good enough, or mess up and something bad happen to him. After I had him, he became my world and I loved him like I never knew I could love. One thing that someone pointed out to me.. "The fact that you are actually worried about not being a good mom, raising your child wrong or being a disappointment, just proves that you are going to be a good mom." No matter what you tell your child about his father, no matter the times you might mess up, as long as you love your child and do the best you possibly can to raise him, it will be ok. Along the way we all make mistakes and as long as your child is safe, happy and healthy, that's all that matters. There will be times where you are the bad guy, but your child will still look up to you, and you will be the one they go to when something is wrong. You will beat yourself up over small things that wont matter to your child. And honestly people will tell you it will be ok and that you can do it, you are still going to stress and freak out about it. But you will love every moment you have once your lil man arrives.