So frustrated :( TMI

I'm so frustrated...annoyed...and sad! I'm 26 weeks and since the day we found out about being pregnant sex has been the furthest thing from my mind. Once I got further along and the symptoms started rolling in it was even worse. I love making love with my husband, and he is amazing and as patient as a man can be, but this is silly. He has to wait to so long in between the times we do it because I am NEVER in the mood. I'm one of the few pregnant women I guess that just doesn't get to that "horny" faze (sorry for the yucky lingo.) Anyways, so to bring us to current, I was laying down in bed, woke up and decided I was feeling a little in the mood so I wake him up, tell him, and he immediately gets super excited and we are doing our thing and for the first time in 6 1/2 months I feel good enough to MAYBE have an orgasm. I try and try, do different things to help, blah blah blah...NOTHING. It can't happen, it wouldn't, it wont. So, now DH has a hormonal, pregnant, frustrated wife in front of him on sheets because all I want to do is make him feel good and me feel good and let us connect. I suck. Why can this not happen for me while I'm pregnant?!   Sorry for the rant. BG is the only place I know I can post something like this and get any response without looking like a weirdo.

Oh the joys of pregnancy lol
I was just like you I didn't even want him to look at me while pregnant it really sucked!!! I am no help in this subject lol he has to be very patient and understand your situation

I had the horny phase but towards the end i couldnt orgasm from just sex anymore

Not as fun but you could go in the bathroom or other room and finish yourself, I've been in that situation a few times. Honestly its probably just your thoughts/mind keeping you from letting loose and finishing.

I don't hardly get horny either =/ It's actually really weird b/c me and my BD are like rabbits lol (tmi sorry) I just can't get turned on idk what my deal is. Someone told me self-esteem b/c i feel so gross and huge but idk. Good luck to you on that tho  

f it continues to be a problem then you could use a small vibrator for clitoral stimulation during sex

<blockquote><b>Quoting Alyssa's mommy [EBFT]:</b>" Not as fun but you could go in the bathroom or other room and finish yourself, I've been in that situation ... [snip!] ... been in that situation a few times. Honestly its probably just your thoughts/mind keeping you from letting loose and finishing."</blockquote>


! Just relax and don't think about it so much. I feel ha though. While pregnant with DD I never hit the "horny" stage. It sucked.

Quoting Misty Walls:" f it continues to be a problem then you could use a small vibrator for clitoral stimulation during sex"

 
That helps. And he might like watchin so it's a win/win  

You are NOT alone! I have several friends that were/are that way. Luckily I have a friend that sells Pure Romance products, and it helps when you have a little help in that department. There are different lubes, vibrating rings to put on the guy that makes it a lot better for both of you, and other stuff that helps the woman trigger an orgasm. Although being 6mo along, it's kinda hard to find something that will actually help. I can be into it, but then it just starts to hurt or my daughter starts kicking my bladder, or pushing on my hips and it just makes it weird for me. I actually have to catch my hubby at the right time where he's actually in the mood, and when the baby is not moving so much. I'm 7mo along and it's usually 1 out of 4 chances that I have an orgasm.

Quoting Love Muffin:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Alyssa's mommy [EBFT]:</b>" Not as fun but you could go in the ... [snip!] ... Just relax and don't think about it so much. I feel ha though. While pregnant with DD I never hit the "horny" stage. It sucked."

If you think about not thinking about it, you'll have trouble reaching your O too.

Ahh women... too bad we can't be more like men but only as far as the bedroom is concerned! Lol

i also have zero sex drive when im pregnant its mostly coz i feel like smurf from my all day morning sickness and heartburn! me and dh have been going weeks without it and i feel bad for him but im honestly just to sick to be bothered!! im hopeing i get atleast some sort of interest back at least half way through tho! i feel your pain tho lol

dont worry i was like that at first i didnt feel in the mood or was too tired to do it and i didnt want my man to feel like i didnt feel attractive towards him anymore but cus he loves you he will understand my fiance understood after a while and now at 32 weeks ive got it back and wanted to do it so it will come back dont worry just maybe later on in the pregnancy !  

Thank you ladies. Good to know I'm not alone. Luckily I have a very patient hubby who doesn't mind waiting. You guys made me feel better about it all. Thank you  

Your not alone. With my most recent pregnancy I was never in the mood. I was just thankful my husband deployed for 6 months the week after I found out I was pregnant. At least if he is on a submarine he was going to be sexually frustrated anyway, but I didn't feel like it was my fault. I feel bad now because I am 7 months PP and we have only been together 1 time. I am just never in the mood and when I am the baby doesn't want to go down at a reasonable hour. I am hoping when I stop breastfeeding our life will find a new normal where we both want to be together.

Quoting Rebecca Croneberger:" Your not alone. With my most recent pregnancy I was never in the mood. I was just thankful my husband ... [snip!] ... at a reasonable hour. I am hoping when I stop breastfeeding our life will find a new normal where we both want to be together."

Very true! PP is something I wonder about too. I'll be breastfeeding as well and I keep thinking I don't really know when I would even find the time since this is our first. However, at least we will both be tired and not thinking about it, instead of it all being me. haha!