re: So frustrated :( TMI

My husband and I have the same issue. We had an awesome sex life before I got pregnant. then it got rocky cause of my bleeding in first trimester and that freaked him out so he couldnt focus to enjoy himself. Then the whole second trimester i wanted nothing. Hit the thrid and now I want it all the time. He has put the time into making me have orgasims even if he isnt able to. We just different gels or different things and he just makes it happen some how. I can't go during sex I've tried when he can focus and not think of hurting us. But I let him go then he finishes me in a different way and then we are both happy.

Lately sense I've hit 36 weeks he has wanted it a lot more I think he got over the scared period. I've let him do his thing and we've tried to get me to go during sex I just can't

I think we all at some point have an issue in this area. For me, I crave the activity but have problems "climaxing". For the most part, I know up front I won't finish, but I don't hold that against him. It's truly uncomfortable in almost any position for more than a few mins as I have a very active unborn, but I find that being "on top" is the only way for me to climax. But my intent is normally to just please my husband because I don't want him to miss out! (TMI) Doggy style is the perfect position for me not to be uncomfortable in any way, and for him to thoroughly enjoy the action. This is my 2nd pregnancy. With my 1st, I just totally held out... But this time I chose to put my husband first. But just remember it's only temporary! Pregnancy flies by. And note, there are several ways to be sexually satisfied without vaginal penetration. This is the time where you must be open to all options, especially when you're married.

dont feel bad hun, you're not the only one. I never went through that horny phase that I hear everyone soexcited about. My poor husband is such a trooper. I am hoping that after the baby is born I will get my libido back and we wont be too exhausted from caring for a newborn to get back to our romantic life!

really? wow i never realized so many women had this problem i am the complete opposite i can do it like every night i swear. n my boyfriend helps get me in the mood cuz we've always done oral sex. some people arent into it but if u and ur husband are open to it then hey! go for it. thats also a way he can get u to orgasm. sometimes i feel silly n wierd cuz im pretty big already but he still goes down there n its great lol the only problem we have now is comfort zone for me cuz of my belly. but just try new things cuz no sex can really mess things up in a relationship sometimes :/

Quoting Dorita Rodriguez:" really? wow i never realized so many women had this problem i am the complete opposite i can do it like ... [snip!] ... zone for me cuz of my belly. but just try new things cuz no sex can really mess things up in a relationship sometimes :/"

lol I feel awkward now when my hubby goes down on me cause I'm so big I can't see him down there anymore! I usually like to watch him, it's a major turn on for me, but now all I see is my big belly ;P

<blockquote><b>Quoting Dorita Rodriguez:</b>" really? wow i never realized so many women had this problem i am the complete opposite i can do it like ... [snip!] ... zone for me cuz of my belly. but just try new things cuz no sex can really mess things up in a relationship sometimes :/"</blockquote>


I agree... And for most men, "pregnant sex is the best sex"... Though I have only strictly been with my husband while preggo, the word on the street is pregnant sex is best. And that comes from men. But as I said in my post, you just have to be open to exploring new or abnormal options. My husband & have an awesome time in the bedroom. Despite this HUGE belly, we make it work.

Quoting Dani Bryant-Murray:" lol I feel awkward now when my hubby goes down on me cause I'm so big I can't see him down there anymore! ... [snip!] ... see him down there anymore! I usually like to watch him, it's a major turn on for me, but now all I see is my big belly ;P"

lol i know i feel the same but i dont even ask for it he does it on his own because he knows we cant do too much besides spooning now that im bigger -_- n he just tries to make it better for me. husbands can be very understanding n open minded if u allow them to  

Quoting Bre'Onda Scott:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Dorita Rodriguez:</b>" really? wow i never realized so many ... [snip!] ... exploring new or abnormal options. My husband & have an awesome time in the bedroom. Despite this HUGE belly, we make it work."

i have to disagree, yeah pregnant sex is not so bad but ur more...flexible wen ur not preggo lol ever since i started geting bigger for me n my boyfriend its more than just sex, he rubs my belly with so much love its just amazing. those are the beautiful moments of pregnant sex  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Dorita Rodriguez:</b>" i have to disagree, yeah pregnant sex is not so bad but ur more...flexible wen ur not preggo lol ever ... [snip!] ... its more than just sex, he rubs my belly with so much love its just amazing. those are the beautiful moments of pregnant sex  "</blockquote>



It's always more than just sex with my husband and I. I guess that's why we are so open to not eliminating anything from our bedroom manners. I'm not sure which statement you were disagreeing with, but speaking from my 1st hand experience with my 2 kids... For me as a woman, pregnant sex has been great. With or without the additional flexibility. We just do things differently while preggo to supplement the inconvenience of the baby growing inside. That's my advice to any pregnant woman experiencing bedroom issues. Be open to trying new things or doing the things they may rarely do when they aren't preggo. I find intercourse to be a special bonding period during the pregnancy. Cause trust me, that connection will be needed once that infant arrives. That's when things get real! Lol, but I can't wait for my new pumpkin to arrive. My son is now 5. So i'm starting all over agin