Family Issues

So I am being induced tomorrow. I'm not worried about about it, I am to preoccupied by my family situation. My parents are recently separated. They will both be there until I am ready to push. Still not what I'm worried about.

I'm worried about my 17 year old brother being there for my labor. My brother is the most selfish, condescending and entitled person I know. He is kind of like a drug addict with out the drugs. He uses and manipulates people until he gets what he wants. He hates my dad. Last time I saw my dad and my brother together my brother hit him over the back of the head very very hard over my dad saying jokingly, "Oh no you will help your sister move, I'll talk to your boss and make sure you get the day off."

I'm really nervous that my brother will try and pick a fight with my dad at the hospital. I'm at the point where I don't even think I want him to be there.. I don't really know what to do.

and my brother is also pissed at me for talking to him. He has pushed away my dads family and my mom doesn't realize that he is playing her because she will always cave in to whatever he wants, I'm afraid he will end up bitter and alone.

Too much to read.

Just don't allow him in your room. Anything he does outside of the room is not your concern. Focus on you and your labor.

Sounds like there's a lot going on between your brother and your dad, perhaps even things you are unaware of. Any other day id suggest helping him through his frustration but you need to focus on the bigger picture.

This might sound mean but maybe your brother shouldnt be there for your labor. It doesnt sound like he will be willing to keep the peace while at the hospital. How long have they been separated? He might just need more time to think about his feelings towards your dad

that was a super long post ( i did not read it all), really sorry about your family issues but its about you right now. Tell them you do not wanna any smurf happening and if it does get em kicked out or do not even invite them to your induction.
I was induced and did not tell my parents only when i had given birth a few hrs later. I just wanted my partner with me and thats it. Good luck

They have been separated for a month now. I don't really want him there, but don't want to offend my mom. Sorry It is a little long. My dad has been going to consuling for 5 years and in the last year my brother has as well, and they had been going together when ythey could

I'm why does your dad feel that your brother has to help you move? He's 17 and stupid like most 17 year olds. He'll turn 18 and move out. And hopefully mature. But why on earth would you want the whole family with you when you are in labor? It's disgusting and painful. The less people with you the better. I just wouldn't have my brother in the room at all, or my dad for that matter.

Quoting kate & tilly:" I'm why does your dad feel that your brother has to help you move? He's 17 and stupid like most 17 year ... [snip!] ... painful. The less people with you the better. I just wouldn't have my brother in the room at all, or my dad for that matter."

The moving thing was just meant as a joke.
They are just going to be there for the contractions part, they are leaving when the doctors are there and when I go to the delivery room. My brother invited himself..

Quoting kate & tilly:" I'm why does your dad feel that your brother has to help you move? He's 17 and stupid like most 17 year ... [snip!] ... painful. The less people with you the better. I just wouldn't have my brother in the room at all, or my dad for that matter."

tell me about it the thought of me laying there with everything hanging out and my dad and brother being there makes me sick HELL NO"

<blockquote><b>Quoting waitingimpatiently.:</b>" The moving thing was just meant as a joke. They are just going to be there for the contractions part, ... [snip!] ... contractions part, they are leaving when the doctors are there and when I go to the delivery room. My brother invited himself.."</blockquote>




Ah ok. But seriously contractions aren't super easy or pretty. I actually told everyone to shut up and help me breath through them. If they didn't help they had to leave. The pushing was nothing compared to labor for me

Quoting waitingimpatiently.:" The moving thing was just meant as a joke. They are just going to be there for the contractions part, ... [snip!] ... contractions part, they are leaving when the doctors are there and when I go to the delivery room. My brother invited himself.."

oh well if your brother wants to be there then tell him he better behave, that this is your day and you will not put up with any negativity from him or your father

<blockquote><b>Quoting pennylove:</b>" tell me about it the thought of me laying there with everything hanging out and my dad and brother being there makes me sick HELL NO""</blockquote>




Yea I left everyone at home. I just had my mom and husband and even then I thought I had too many people

<blockquote><b>Quoting kate & tilly:</b>" I'm why does your dad feel that your brother has to help you move? He's 17 and stupid like most 17 year ... [snip!] ... painful. The less people with you the better. I just wouldn't have my brother in the room at all, or my dad for that matter."</blockquote>



Labor is not disgusting. And some people make it a family event. If the family is close the support can help.

Quoting Abbey & Ethan ((EBFB)):" <blockquote><b>Quoting kate & tilly:</b>" I'm why does your dad feel that your brother ... [snip!] ... Labor is not disgusting. And some people make it a family event. If the family is close the support can help."

my parents just kind of expected that they would be invited. My dad really wanted to be in the delivery room but that was just to much for me(it will be strictly my boyfriend and i ). My mom didn't come around for my pregnancy for a long time, and my brother just started to accept it a few months ago. My dad is the only one that has been supportive and excited through the whole thing. I just feel like with everything going on that It might be good to have at least my parents here for that. We all need something else to focus on right know.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Abbey & Ethan ((EBFB)):</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting kate & tilly:</b>" I'm why does your dad feel that your brother ... [snip!] ... Labor is not disgusting. And some people make it a family event. If the family is close the support can help."</blockquote>




Well mine sure wasn't pretty. I bled everywhere. Yes bright red blood. Including all over my husband during contractions and I threw up on everyone for the whole 27 hours of my induction. No way I would want a whole room full of people watching that sorry. Yes it's beautiful cause you're bringing a new life into the world but let's face it, it's not the most gorgeous thing to look at. It's a beautiful experience I'm thankful I had but no I'd still say it was pretty disgusting.

Quoting kate & tilly:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Abbey & Ethan ((EBFB)):</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... most gorgeous thing to look at. It's a beautiful experience I'm thankful I had but no I'd still say it was pretty disgusting."

Yikes I am really sorry that happened to you  

Ugh I have to be up at 5 am for the induction( its know 11:37 pm) and I can't go to sleep because I am too worried about what will happen with my brother at the hostipal.. I should be nervous about labor not if my brother is going to act like a two year old or not..