re: Am I overreacting?

Quoting Supafly★:" I am 6 months into being an "attachment" parent and it blows lol. "

I tried it for a whole 30 days and then momma needed a beer. It's not for me at all. Yep, I popped a baby out of my womb, but that does not mean she needs to be there the rest of her life. Children need to get out there and experience life. They need scrapes and cuts and bruises. They need the broken arms and stitches and bloody noses. They need to lose a soccer match or fall off the balance beam.

Quoting khigh:" I tried it for a whole 30 days and then momma needed a beer. It's not for me at all. Yep, I popped a ... [snip!] ... They need the broken arms and stitches and bloody noses. They need to lose a soccer match or fall off the balance beam."

I agree with that. I mean, the best part of attachment parenting is breastfeeding. But now LO co-sleeps and screams his head off as soon as I lay him anywhere else. I have to hold him like, every second. He cries if I'm not in the same room, even if someone else is holding him. I know some babies are just "high needs" and "you can never spoil an infant" and blah blah blah but sometimes I can't help but think I made him this way. Especially since DH and my mom tell me that all the time lol.
And when he is no longer an infant? He's getting a sippy cup and sent straight to the crib. No toddlers or kids sleeping with me every night lol.

I'm a half attachment parent. I nurse and I let her sleep with me but if she hurts herself I'm there for her but I usually giggle at it because I'm one of those people that laugh at pain including my own. But I want to be here to make sure she has that emotional support she needs while getting the care she demands. I have a carrier and we go places and learn about the world. I feel it my job as a mother to tech my daughter about the world because when she's out there by herself she knows. I still work and I am in college. I just don't feel it's right for her to be away from me for so long when so young. If she was one I would be like go right ahead I need a nap and my toes done anyway. I told him no but there are plenty more times he can go with her when she's older. I love that I can have time with her now. She's going to be my only one because of my medical condition.

We attachment parent. There is definitely a right and wrong way to do it. I don't hover over my child. I've dropped her off places and she ran to play without even looking back, even the first time. My daughter knows I'm here if she needs me thus feels confident enough to explore her world without being on my hip. We co-slept for a long time (a lot of the months were out of necessity though or because my husband was in basic so we lived with family to save money). Now that we have out own place again she's got a big girl bed and sleeps in it.

But even still, we would leave her with someone over night (family wise) without hesitation. It's a great chance to have some spouse time. Often my husband takes her for the day so I can have some me time. It's helped their bond as well as helping her develop to not prefer only one person which isn't healthy. Children need to learn to accept people other than mommy and daddy.

Quoting Mðmmå Çhï¢lꆆê~ 7wks:" We attachment parent. There is definitely a right and wrong way to do it. I don't hover over my child. ... [snip!] ... develop to not prefer only one person which isn't healthy. Children need to learn to accept people other than mommy and daddy."

Attachment parenting would never work for us. She's staying with my parents and MIL next year (I have to go to India for school and ex-DH is deploying). Then, we are seriously considering boarding school when she hits 7th grade (near DC where I will be living).

<blockquote><b>Quoting khigh:</b>" Attachment parenting would never work for us. She's staying with my parents and MIL next year (I have ... [snip!] ... is deploying). Then, we are seriously considering boarding school when she hits 7th grade (near DC where I will be living)."</blockquote>




It's not for everyone but that's OK. Though I could imagine living in India would be an awesome life experience for her as well.

Quoting Mðmmå Çhï¢lꆆê~ 7wks:" <blockquote><b>Quoting khigh:</b>" Attachment parenting would never work for us. She's ... [snip!] ... not for everyone but that's OK. Though I could imagine living in India would be an awesome life experience for her as well."

It would be and I would take her, but I'm going to have to go to some sites in some rough parts, namely Sikkim Province, Pakistan, and the Mount Everest base camp. We weighed the pros and cons and didn't think it would be a good idea to take her to some war torn areas.

<blockquote><b>Quoting khigh:</b>" It would be and I would take her, but I'm going to have to go to some sites in some rough parts, namely ... [snip!] ... Everest base camp. We weighed the pros and cons and didn't think it would be a good idea to take her to some war torn areas."</blockquote>

Ah, I definitely understand.

My LO is one month and 3 days and she has spent the night with my mom alot(I feel). It's hard but I do like having the ME time to cathc up on my stuff and clear my head! It's great for relaxation. But again, it's all up to you.

Well yes, yes you are. You have a childwith the man, but don't trust the man to take your baby? The only way I'd say no is if I were breastfeeding.