re: Am I overreacting?

Quoting Nikki Medina:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Rice:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Nikki Medina:</b>" ... [snip!] ... The first night away is hard and it sucks."</blockquote> I just feel right with her just leaving. It's not time yet."

When will be the right time? When she heads off to college?

Oh no! Lol like I said once she's one I can handle it. Just not now. She's too little. I've raised two the babies and I didn't leat them until they where about one.

<blockquote><b>Quoting khigh:</b>" When will be the right time? When she heads off to college?"</blockquote>

Reminds me of the women who complain that they never have a break cause the dad never does anything... Yet she never let's him or fussed at him so much he gave up.

Anyway op, I didn't know you were breast feeding. That changes everything, especially if you don't pump (I didn't usually).

You are definitely overreacting. I would love if my DH took our daughters somewhere and i got a few days free to do what I want. Even at 6 months its 2 days that she will never remember. I could never imagine not ever being away from my kids. I need a break as does my DH and we are fine with them spending a night or two with their grandparents.

Why not let him be a parent. He trust you to be alone with your kids and if you went somewhere without him he trust you, why not show him the same respect and let him take your child so you get a break. Its only 2 days not like a year.

You said in the OP that DH never gets up with her at night, well this might be a good chance for him to prove himself. I was nervous going back to work and leaving lo with his dad all night (i work graveyard shift) since i was the one who gets up with him at night. Well SO does fine without me there & to be honest hes bonding more with lo now that they have alone time together.

and of course you will miss her thats part of being a mom

Quoting Raωkeℓ:" Why have a baby with a man you don't think is capable of taking care of his own child?"

Wow... ^^^this comment wasn't even right to say. Honey you are NOT over reacting one bit. But some (i use "some" loosely) fathers have that mother instict when Mommy isn't there for baby like normal. I kno that my BF has it, and isn't even the father. He knows if my BG sleeps in bed with us. Normally he tosses and turns a bit, but when he knows she's there, he's as bad as me when I kno she is. Hardly moves! Lol If you trust he has it, let them go. But that baby DID come out of YOUR womb. So of course there's anxiety.(:

Yes I think you're over reacting. He is the Father so he should be entitled to take his child for an overnight stay just the same as you would. I agree with the comments that I don't understand why women have children with men they don't trust to be a Father. How would you feel if it was the other way around. I bet many Mothers wouldn't be too happy if the Father of their child through a hissy fit because she wanted to take the child for 1 night. Jeez DS was born days before my DH turned 19 years old and he wanted to take DS absolutely everywhere with him and I didn't even bat an eyelid. Why would it even enter someone's mind to consider not letting the Father take care of their child on their own?

as long as he gave you at least a couple days of a notice so it gave you time to pump then i would think you are over reacting, i took our son at 2 months to missouri to visit family while my husband stayed home because he had to work, we were gone for about a week. Let him be a father to his child, yes if it was the other way around and he was telling you he didn't want you to go because the child was to young, you would probably freak out. His mom will be there, if he doesn't wake up with her, i'm sure she will or someone else will.

What if I told you all that I am part if that fine group of parents that is are attachment parenting? Then what you would say? I don't feel it's right for her to leave just yet. I trust my husband whole hartedly and I do let him care for her I just don't feel right. And plus it was just dropped on me like....hey my mom and I are going to Bismarck tomorrow.....ya so, I have to work so you have doodle tomorrow....I know we would be there until Saturday...oh so your staying over night? .....ya. Oh.

i think you should let them go, it will be good daddy and baby bonding and he will be with his mom so i am sure she will be helping..

I still think you should let him take her, if you fully trusted him you wouldn't have an issue with it at all. a lot of women are attached to their children and don't even want them going off to college, but it happens. you make it seem like he wants to take her for a long period of time or your afraid he wont bring her back. relax and let them bond with just the 2 of them and enjoy the night to yourself.

I'm pretty sure he'll wake up with her since he knows he HAS to, he probably wakes up when she cries now but not fully because he knows you'll take care of her KWIM?
I think if he's willing you should let her go. I know it's a scary concept because she' so young but now is a good time to start getting her used to other people.

Quoting Supafly★:" I'm pretty sure he'll wake up with her since he knows he HAS to, he probably wakes up when she cries ... [snip!] ... her go. I know it's a scary concept because she' so young but now is a good time to start getting her used to other people. "

This!

Quoting Nikki Medina:" What if I told you all that I am part if that fine group of parents that is are attachment parenting? ... [snip!] ... to work so you have doodle tomorrow....I know we would be there until Saturday...oh so your staying over night? .....ya. Oh."

I personally, FOR ME, think attachment parenting leads to co-dependent adults. At what age do you stop being attached to the hip with your spawn? 1, 5, 15, 25? Are you going to hover or let your kid be a kid?

I personally do not do attachment parenting at all. Heck, I'm leaving my 5 year old with my mom for a year so I can go to India and get my PhD. We are likely sending her to an all-girls boarding school when she gets to the 7th grade (one really close to DC where I will be living).

Quoting khigh:" I personally, FOR ME, think attachment parenting leads to co-dependent adults. At what age do you stop ... [snip!] ... sending her to an all-girls boarding school when she gets to the 7th grade (one really close to DC where I will be living). "

I am 6 months into being an "attachment" parent and it blows lol.