re: Am I overreacting?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Raωkeℓ:</b>" Why have a baby with a man you don't think is capable of taking care of his own child?"</blockquote>

Seriously. I wonder how they would feel if their SO gave them as little respect in trusting them as they do. Just because women are the only ones.capable of carrying the child does not make them automatically a better or more trustworthy parent imo.

<blockquote><b>Quoting khigh:</b>" This! Some women need to realize that their husbands are just as capable of caring for their spawn as they are. I feel bad for these children."</blockquote>




Unfortunately a lot of women don't give their Husbands or SO's the chance to prove themselves so the woman just don't think the dad's have it in them to care for a child  

Quoting Daphne Westcott:" i would def not be comfortable and SO would know that i just wouldnt allow it my son is 2 now and has never spent a day or night without me i just like knowing where he is and that his safe"

You don't feel that your child is safe with your SO?

I trust my so 10000% I just don't feel comfortable with him taking her so far away from me when she's so young.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Raωkeℓ:</b>" Why have a baby with a man you don't think is capable of taking care of his own child?"</blockquote>




Whereas I would be nervous to be away from my daughter, I would absolutely trust my husband with my children. I am surprised at how many women have children with men they don't trust...

Thankfully I breast feed thus my little ones could never be away from me that long and it'd be a non issue. Otherwise, I've left my daughter with my husband for a weekend when I went to visit a friend three hours away.

Quoting Mama Rice:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Raωkeℓ:</b>" Why have a baby with a man you don't ... [snip!] ... women are the only ones.capable of carrying the child does not make them automatically a better or more trustworthy parent imo."

I'm sure if it was the other way around there would be a smurf storm in that household. I mean, for smurfs sake- you both are parents, let him parent. He gives you the respect to sit back and trust you are being a good mother; show the same towards him.

Quoting Nikki Medina:" I trust my so 10000% I just don't feel comfortable with him taking her so far away from me when she's so young."

Then you don't trust your SO. If you did, you would know your kid will be okay.

I trust my husband 100% but we are still breast feeding. It has nothing to do with trust. If she was older and not nursing I'd be fine with it.

Quoting Mðmmå Çhï¢lꆆê~ 7wks:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Raωkeℓ:</b>" Why have a baby with a man you don't ... [snip!] ... be a non issue. Otherwise, I've left my daughter with my husband for a weekend when I went to visit a friend three hours away."

Aw.
Yea I breastfed as well for the first six months, and going away to take care of something was such a hassle. BD would have stored milk in the freezer, but I'd come home so engorged I'd have to pump as soon as I got home before I could do anything! Lol

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nichole+3girls:</b>" nope.. no overnights til 18mths i trust SO, but he wouldnt wake up even if a plane crashed in the house."</blockquote>




That's exactly how mine is. I trust him completely but when he's asleep I would prefer to be with ds because I am a very light sleeper and hear everything. When ds was around a month old there was one night he wouldn't go to sleep. I was so tired and because so had slept in that day he was gonna be up late. He had me leave ds in the living room with him so I could get some sleep and I woke up a few hours later to ds crying. I went out there and ds was in his swing crying for a bottle and so was passed out on the couch. He felt terrible that he didn't hear him crying. Ever since then I keep ds in the room with me no matter how tired I am just in case so falls asleep while watching tv

Quoting White Chocolate Milk:" You don't feel that your child is safe with your SO?"

No his safe with SO but then we are all three together my husband is more than capable if being with is father im sure he would even prefer it but luckily for me
i havnt spent a day apaprt from my husband in 6years besides one night when i m/c and he agrees that its either us all three together unless no other choice all i mean is im not sure id me able to cope with him not being there ecspecially that young

<blockquote><b>Quoting khigh:</b>" Then you don't trust your SO. If you did, you would know your kid will be okay."</blockquote>




I'm not saying she won't be ok. I trust him with her. I just don't feel ok with her being away from me for so long. Make sense? It's like I feel that since she's leaving I'm going to miss her to the moon and back and I don't feel comfortable with her being gone from me when she so young. It she was a year I would be fine with it but now...I just don't think it's right.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nikki Medina:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting khigh:</b>" Then you don't trust your SO. If you did, you would ... [snip!] ... her being gone from me when she so young. It she was a year I would be fine with it but now...I just don't think it's right."</blockquote>


I don't care if they are 6 weeks, 6 months or 6 years. The first night away is hard and it sucks.

Quoting Nikki Medina:" <blockquote><b>Quoting khigh:</b>" Then you don't trust your SO. If you did, you would ... [snip!] ... her being gone from me when she so young. It she was a year I would be fine with it but now...I just don't think it's right."

Doesn't really make sense to me, but seems like it does to a lot of other women. I never have had a problem leaving DD with DH, my mom, MIL, FIL, etc. As long as I know she's safe, I enjoy my alone time. She spent 2 weeks at my sisters house last summer and I flew to India for vacation. She had a blast and I had a blast.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Rice:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Nikki Medina:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting khigh:</b>" ... [snip!] ... right."</blockquote> I don't care if they are 6 weeks, 6 months or 6 years. The first night away is hard and it sucks."</blockquote>




I just feel right with her just leaving. It's not time yet.