My Step Dad Might Have CancerAgain

On December 13, 2011 my 35 year old step dad was diagnosed with cancer.
In January of 2012 we found out it was stage 4 Lymphoma.
He under went 6 months of Chemo therapy, and was completely cancer free.
My mom just told me he had a pet scan done and the results were troubling. He needs to have a biopsy to determine what's going on and how serious it is.
I'm so scared and upset. I don't know what our family would do without him. He's one of the most honorable men I know.
The day he was diagnosed with cancer, the two of us had an arguement and he went to the hospital that very day because he didn't feel well. So I've felt like it was some how my fault since. I know logically I couldn't have done anything to cause it, so feeling that way is silly. but still I feel that way for some reason.
Just needed to get it all out, sorry if I was a bit ranty.

I'm so sorry. Hopefully it's nothing as serious as cancer.
My step-dad is terminally ill. I know how terrible it feels for them to be sick.
PM me if you ever need to talk <3

Its hard having a family member with cancer. He beat it once though. Hopefully he can do it again. My grandpa had it for 2 years then was in remission for a year n half then it came back for another 7years.

Quoting Mayhem.:" I'm so sorry. Hopefully it's nothing as serious as cancer. My step-dad is terminally ill. I know how terrible it feels for them to be sick. PM me if you ever need to talk <3"

Thank you. I really hope it's not cancer too. and that if it is, it's not nearly as serious as last time.
I'm so scared for him and our family. He's the closest thing to dad I have ever known.
Feel free to PT me so I can keep you updated on the situation if you would like.

Quoting March 2013:" Its hard having a family member with cancer. He beat it once though. Hopefully he can do it again. My ... [snip!] ... he can do it again. My grandpa had it for 2 years then was in remission for a year n half then it came back for another 7years."

Thank you. I really hope so too. Idk what our family would do without him. We'd be completely lost.
What kind of cancer did your grampa have?

It started off as prostate and got worse from there. Oct 15th last year. Its hard, but I know he isn't hurting. Me and my husband moved home 2 years ago so I could be with him more. He was more of a father to me. Hospis let him have a wish and then a month after that he was gone. I'm glad he had fun. He didn't like people worring over him, if you asked he would alway say he is fair.

I'm sorry your step father is ill, and hopefully the results come back good. My Aunt was recently diagnosed with breast cancer, after being 23 years cancer free -- And passed away recently (Nov. 23rd, to be exact) due to a 3rd type of very aggressive cancer.

It's not your fault, unfortunately these things happen.  

Quoting March 2013:" It started off as prostate and got worse from there. Oct 15th last year. Its hard, but I know he isn't ... [snip!] ... that he was gone. I'm glad he had fun. He didn't like people worring over him, if you asked he would alway say he is fair."

I'm so sorry for your loss. R.I.P
My step dad is the same way. He says he's not scared and if you ask him how he's feeling, he will always say he's fine.

I wonder sometimes if the lack of fear is what got him through it before.

Quoting Kayla [ ]♥:" I'm sorry your step father is ill, and hopefully the results come back good. My Aunt was recently diagnosed ... [snip!] ... 23rd, to be exact) due to a 3rd type of very aggressive cancer. It's not your fault, unfortunately these things happen.  "

I am very sorry for your recent loss.  
Thank you for the supportive words.
I know it's not my fault, so Idk why I feel so much like it is.

That could be. The older you get the harder it is on your body to want to live. Your will might be there, but sometimes the body can't do it. Your step dad is still kinda young so that should be in his favor for beating it. Try not to worry till you know for sure. My gram had breast cancer right after my grandfather died..she had to do 6weeks of radiation and chemo. She is cancer free now. I worry about if it will come back to her, but she seems to be as active as she was before.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Two Princesses:</b>" Thank you. I really hope it's not cancer too. and that if it is, it's not nearly as serious as last ... [snip!] ... the closest thing to dad I have ever known. Feel free to PT me so I can keep you updated on the situation if you would like."</blockquote>

I did. And now if you ever need to talk I may be easier to find.
I'm so sorry. Ugh.

Quoting Two Princesses:" I am very sorry for your recent loss.   Thank you for the supportive words. I know it's not my fault, so Idk why I feel so much like it is."

It is a very normal feeling. I felt like I was to blame for my aunts death. I hated myself for being so far away, and thought maybe had I been closer if this would have never happened. Of course it would have happened regardless, but the thought was there.

Quoting March 2013:" That could be. The older you get the harder it is on your body to want to live. Your will might be there, ... [snip!] ... and chemo. She is cancer free now. I worry about if it will come back to her, but she seems to be as active as she was before."

Thank you so much for the support.
He will have a biopsy to find out more. I'll post updates as they come.
Feel free to be in my PT if you'd like.

Quoting Mayhem.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Two Princesses:</b>" Thank you. I really hope it's not cancer ... [snip!] ... if you would like."</blockquote> I did. And now if you ever need to talk I may be easier to find. I'm so sorry. Ugh."

I have returned the favor.  
I can't thank you enough for just being here. Talking t o me. I just want more than anything for him to be ok ya know?

Quoting Kayla [ ]♥:" It is a very normal feeling. I felt like I was to blame for my aunts death. I hated myself for being ... [snip!] ... had I been closer if this would have never happened. Of course it would have happened regardless, but the thought was there."

I really appreciate that you can empathize.
I know feeling the way I do is irrational. but somehow my fiance and mom telling me it's not my fault makes me feel worse. I guess these feelings may stem from feeling so helpless over his situation like I should somehow be able to say something, do something, anything to make things ok again..
I'm just trying to deal with it the best I can and be there for him as much as he needs.