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Seems like there really nothing else you can do. Personally I would start acting distant and have him come to me.

Im not going to say hes cheating. But there IS a problem. It is NOT normal for young couples to go so long. Im an old couple and I know if a week goes by, somethings up.

You need to get to the bottom of his lack for sexual intimacy with you. Then you can express how you need more attention from him by saying to him exactly what you said here.

Quoting Heeeeeey, Sexy lady. ;):" Seems like there really nothing else you can do. Personally I would start acting distant and have him come to me."

I've thought about doing that, but I also think that if I don't explain this to him in a way he will understand then he won't know what to do or think about me being distant and then there will really be no effort put forth in anything.

I would tell him that you are really struggling to stay happy. Don't attack him, but tell him " hey I have sexual needs and you are not meeting them." That you entered a marriage for a life partner, sex included. I certainly do not think its normal to go that long without sex or affection. I would through out marriage counsling.

Quoting Shannonsfirst:" Im not going to say hes cheating. But there IS a problem. It is NOT normal for young couples to go so ... [snip!] ... intimacy with you. Then you can express how you need more attention from him by saying to him exactly what you said here."

Yeah. I really do not think he's cheating. Maybe it's bad on my part, but I snooped for a while when things first started seeming strange and everything checked out good. But, you're right, it HAS to be something. Every time I've asked him about that though, he's just like 'why do you expect me to have sex with you every night?! Sometimes I'm tired and have to get up early the next morning so I want to go to bed!' and I don't expect it that often, I really don't. I'll wait weeks on end without initiating anything hoping he will come on to me on his own, then after a while I'll just give in and ask for it but he kind of makes me beg then he hurries up and finishes and thats that.

Dh and I went threw the very same thing. I finally managed to get him to understand that for me sex wasn't just about physical pleasure but the affection and closeness I feel with my partner. And either he could be that partner or I would find some else.

Maybe try to spice it up a bit! Also offer oral if he turns that down you need counseling or something soon

Quoting 1inpink2inblue:" Dh and I went threw the very same thing. I finally managed to get him to understand that for me sex wasn't ... [snip!] ... pleasure but the affection and closeness I feel with my partner. And either he could be that partner or I would find some else."

What you said is exactly what I am going to tell DH when he gets home! That was a good way to put it.. I might have to write it down and read it to him, but maybe he will get my point with that because it really is how I feel and I have been trying my hardest to get him to understand where I'm coming from.

Your marriage sounds like my marriage.... Its hard and I totally understand how ur feeling. I have flat out told my DH that I feel like he isnt attracted to me anymore and he makes me feel like im not good enough for him. Men can be asses sometimes. You just got to flat out tell him everything thats on ur mind. Tell him you want a change or else... Have you tried to do something different in the bedroom?? Try to switch it up and make it fun and sexy. Like Fifty Shades of grey but not that fair lol, dont want to scare him away from sex complety. Have you asked him why he doesnt want to have sex?? In my situation my DH is addicted to his stupid ass video games, and we just had a baby 3 months ago so that doesnt help. I want to feel wanted and Im sure you do too, Tell him you want him u want him to want you, You starve for his attention.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Shannonsfirst:</b>" Im not going to say hes cheating. But there IS a problem. It is NOT normal for young couples to go so ... [snip!] ... intimacy with you. Then you can express how you need more attention from him by saying to him exactly what you said here."</blockquote>




We do go that long with no sex, and we are very happily married. Life happens and sometimes we just don't get time.
But OP, I'm sorry you're going through this.   Maybe seperate for a bit and see if that's really what you want?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:</b>" Yeah. I really do not think he's cheating. Maybe it's bad on my part, but I snooped for a while when ... [snip!] ... then after a while I'll just give in and ask for it but he kind of makes me beg then he hurries up and finishes and thats that."</blockquote>




Well ask him if its a problem being intament with you. Like is he going a month without masterbating too? Why isn't he coming to you? I think he has an underlying issue.

Quoting FutureMommyof2:" Maybe try to spice it up a bit! Also offer oral if he turns that down you need counseling or something soon"

I've done that. I do oral and I've bought sexual games for couples and stuff like that and neither worked.

Quoting ILOVEWINE:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:</b>" Yeah. I really do not think he's cheating. ... [snip!] ... with you. Like is he going a month without masterbating too? Why isn't he coming to you? I think he has an underlying issue."

Nope, he hasn't masturbated or anything either.

Quoting ♥Mama Constantine:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Shannonsfirst:</b>" Im not going to say hes cheating. But there ... [snip!] ... get time. But OP, I'm sorry you're going through this.   Maybe seperate for a bit and see if that's really what you want?"

It works for your marriage, but not OPs