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Ask him if he would feel comfortable showing his penis to your mom and accidentally pooping in front of her?

Your body, your choice..

I still get crap from family for not letting my MIL have her way and be in the room.. Ultimately, I wouldn't change my mind or do anything different.. To this day, I barely know the woman and I still don't feel comfortable around her..

your choice. who cares if its selfish.

i would have LOVED my MIL with me when i had my son. she's a nurse, and best most caring woman who's had 8 babies of her own. she might actually be a great help to you... id consider it, if it gets too much you can always ask her to please leave.

Put your foot down and tell him you are not comfortable having her in there. Especially being that exposed. Birth is a private event to me. One in which you need to be comfortable without distractions and have his complete support. Not in a situation where you feel exposed, uncomfortable and stressed. Thats not good for you or the baby. She can wait in the hall/waiting room.

Well I can understand him wanting her there. If you think at all you could do it, IMO do it. But I also understand about it being your time. You are the one who is uncomfortable for god knows how long, pushing out a kid.
You should just sit down and express all this to him. Maybe he will understand and this way you get what you want without coming off the wrong way.

<blockquote><b>Quoting shes*almost*one!:</b>" your choice. who cares if its selfish. i would have LOVED my MIL with me when i had my son. she's a ... [snip!] ... own. she might actually be a great help to you... id consider it, if it gets too much you can always ask her to please leave. "</blockquote>




This! Good point. You can try it out in the beginning when things are at there easy moments, if it gets tough kick her out! Lol

Quoting shes*almost*one!:" your choice. who cares if its selfish. i would have LOVED my MIL with me when i had my son. she's a ... [snip!] ... own. she might actually be a great help to you... id consider it, if it gets too much you can always ask her to please leave. "

 
MIL was in 2 out 3 of my deliveries. For the one she wasn't in, ironically she was working in the hospital I delivered. lol. But yeah she was there right after. She has been a nurse for almost 20 years and the whole time she was with me it's almost as if she was only there when I acknowledged her/needed her, she disappeared the rest of the time lol like she kept in the down low in her little corner. I was very thankful for her being there. Specially since my mom wasn't able to be there for my last 2.
And DH pretty much acted as if she wasn't there either, she didn't take any attention from me, the baby or the experience.

Quoting iLL-Legal Alien:"   MIL was in 2 out 3 of my deliveries. For the one she wasn't in, ironically she was working in the ... [snip!] ... 2. And DH pretty much acted as if she wasn't there either, she didn't take any attention from me, the baby or the experience."

sounds like my MIL. she came in spent the entire day and night with me after i had my son (hubby was in afghanistan) she was a blessing. i was stuck on the L&D floor because i was pretty sick and still had my IV and junk. She was an amazing help, and would basically melt into the woodwork and read her book and not bother me until i wanted/needed her. she was very proactive in making sure my son and i had the best care possible. it was nice having her there.

so OP, really reconsider, it might be a huge benefit to you having her there, or if she's a pain in the ass... boot her out. its nice to have a person to run errands, get coffee, etc. if you're not comfortable with her seeing your vagina have her up by your head. there's a very small period of time when your "spread eagle" as you so eloquently put it.

SIL and MIL tried to push their way into my room while I was in labour and the midwife threw them out at my request. I said it was okay for MIL to come and say hi periodically because I felt bad. DS is her first living grandchild because SIL's son died during labour and I knew it would give her peace of mind to know things were going alright even though it was a crazy night and I ended up needing an emergency c-section  

Its a big moment in his life too! My husband wanted his mom there and she ended up being my biggest support! I'm so thankful she was there...biggest part of opening a new chapter of your life is to learn to compromise. Let her at least come in during labor and if you feel uncomfortable tell the nurses to make her leave before delivery.

Same thing happened to me. My MIL really wanted to be in the room for her first grand child's birth I swear I never heard the smurfing end of it! I should have been blunt from the start. I knew I didn't want her in there but I just didnt want to hurt any feelings. We ended up having our son early so we got air flown to a bigger hospital. I got what I wanted just me DH and baby in the room and I wouldn't have it any other way. I didn't want to share my first moments with my son with anyone other than DH. I feel it's an important family time that should be shared between you guys has a family. She can be the first to come in and hold the little one. Life will go on doesn't have to see the baby coming out if your vag. Stand your ground do what makes you comfortable. Yes this is his first child but its still coming out of your body.

Quoting Damon's Mama:" Same thing happened to me. My MIL really wanted to be in the room for her first grand child's birth I ... [snip!] ... your vag. Stand your ground do what makes you comfortable. Yes this is his first child but its still coming out of your body."

Air Flown.

ha ha ha ha

<blockquote><b>Quoting shes*almost*one!:</b>" Air Flown. ha ha ha ha"</blockquote>

I love how that's all you got out of my post lol. Yes I am spelling challenged....in other words we took a helicopter lol.

Quoting Damon's Mama:" <blockquote><b>Quoting shes*almost*one!:</b>" Air Flown. ha ha ha ha"</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... I love how that's all you got out of my post lol. Yes I am spelling challenged....in other words we took a helicopter lol."

it was spelled correctly, it just sounds stupid. lol

<blockquote><b>Quoting shes*almost*one!:</b>" it was spelled correctly, it just sounds stupid. lol"</blockquote>

Well ok then...that's what they called it at the hospital.