Are looks important?

I since having my baby have not been thinking my husband is all that great lookin and its ruining our relationship i know looks should not be important but are looks important? im having a hard time being intimate everything

he dresses badly hes chubby he does not have a great face either i knew he was not hot but now i just cant find anything about him attractive =[

i lie and say i do but i dont

to a point yes. I mean you have to be attracted to the person.
maybe it's your hormones. Or have you always thought this way?

oh wow. thats sad. i can honestly say after 6 years and a child together, i am still just as attracted (physically) to my SO as when we first met.

Aww poor guy 

Looks aren't important to me. I know DH isn't handsome to anyone but me but that is ok. However when I was on birth control the past few weeks I found myself not finding him attractive at all. I stopped taking it on Sunday and I am all over him again like I used to.

Having a baby changes A LOT in a relationship. After my oldest was born I wanted nothing to do with him. After my youngest was born I was fine with him until the BC. I would blame it on the hormones 

<blockquote><b>Quoting HotMom21ERF:</b>" oh wow. thats sad. i can honestly say after 6 years and a child together, i am still just as attracted (physically) to my SO as when we first met."</blockquote>




So do I DH and I have been together 4 years and I still get super turned on by him.

Did you find him attractive before the baby? Could be your hormones are out of whack and you just have no sex drive.

Is it possible he's kinda let himself go a little bit now that you're married with a baby? If you don't like the way he dresses, maybe you could go shopping with him or buy him some clothes...try to pick out something you both like. My husband has clothes that I love but he thinks he looks awful in, and I'm always telling him, "I love you in this." And I'll notice him wearing it more.

Maybe diet/exercise together to help him lose weight, too?

Wow, that's harsh. Poor guy.  


I love my SO dearly. He isn't perfect, but to me he is. I love everything about him. So when it comes to him, looks mean nothing. Although, I think he is very good looking, if he gained weight or changed his syle I would still love him anyways.

Quoting Disney Mamma:" <blockquote><b>Quoting HotMom21ERF:</b>" oh wow. thats sad. i can honestly say after ... [snip!] ... when we first met."</blockquote> So do I DH and I have been together 4 years and I still get super turned on by him."

 
me too (my SO, not your DH, lol )

Poor guy. How would you feel if he said those things about you? Are you a complete 10? Probably not.

If ihis weight is causing an issue with health why don't you ask him to get in shape together to be healthy for your growing family? It suggest he let you pick out some clothes. Either way, you married him and started a family with him knowing what he looked like, to just decide now that he's not good enough for you would be really smurffy.

Quoting furrbabiesmommy:" to a point yes. I mean you have to be attracted to the person. maybe it's your hormones. Or have you always thought this way?"

I agree. 8yrs later I'm still attracted to my man, and that's the first thing we noticed about each other- was looks. I think there has to be some sort of physical attraction to make it last, not just love alone. Try not to pick him apart and find stuff you LOVE about him, maybe he has gorgeous colored eyes, or a cute calick.

Yes I have always taken pride in my looks, have a nice shape take care of my skin and hair buy nice clothes think it's important .... call me shallow but w/e and my husband is the same way

I have always been approached by better looking men I could date a chubby man or a short man w/e but if I thought he was just butt ugly NO!, you HAVE to be attracted to who you are with... and vice versa or it's just a joke

why would you want to be with someone you were not attracted to at all... looks are important sex is important all the things people says are not important is a LIE lol they are important ESPECIALLY when you are married

I keep myself up even more now married

looks matter, I am sorry hun maybe talk to him about this be sensitive about it and let him know how you feel

Idk. DH is sexy to me.

Apparently to everyone else he's not that attractive.
Makes my ovaries shake so I'm good.

I felt the same way it ruined out sex life and got into a lot of fights. We just recently started having sex again after not having it for a year and a half. I just remind myself that I am not dating him because he is a "sexy model" lol I love him because he cares about me and is a real sweetheart. Always puts me and our daughter first and that's what makes him attractive in my eyes.

Quoting Mrs. Tebow:" Idk. DH is sexy to me. Apparently to everyone else he's not that attractive. Makes my ovaries shake so I'm good."

Mrs. Tebow, where have you been? lmao