Quoting .Colleen.:" Yes, that was my line of thought. If I were him and feeling that way, I would probably not want to put that on my partner that is sick, you know?"
But there-in lies the problem, if he can't come to me for anything, and can't be affectionate. Then he's emotionally disconnecting himself from me completely and plugging in to something else, not only is that selfish, but that's also ignorant on his part if that is the case. I get he has stresses, and issues, and problems. But not being affectionate, and then on top of that not talking to me about these issues and problems doesn't solve anything and drives a wedge further between us.