Quoting she nan igans:" *hugs* Has he gotten therapy? I know that sometimes partneres of people with cancer do well with some ... [snip!] ... that takes him out of that sexual place. Maybe some therapy for him and some for both of you can help you guys get past that."
Since I lost my hair, and started treatment he's not as affectionate anymore...some days it feels like I already died, and unless I make the first move he doesn't do anything...he refuses to see therapists, I've asked him to in the past, but he says he doesn't want to, and I'm not the type to force things on people, I just wish he'd see how much his lack of interest is starting to hurt me. Chemo is nothing compared to how my heart has felt since I started it. I wouldn't even care about the porn if he would actually spend time with me being affectionate and intimate...I mean it's one thing to be sexual, but a completely different thing to be loving, and he's lacked the loving part. Even when we do have sex it's like he's not there, he closes his eyes the entire time, doesn't look at me, and when he does open his eyes it's when we're in doggy. (sorry if that's tmi)...I don't really know what to do...I've tried talking to him about this in the past and he just gets defensive...I don't know what more I'm expected to do.