re: Abstinence Education vs. Sex Education.

Quoting ~Julie Blue Eyes~:" Yup. I am "old school" about sex. I am currently a widow who is in an abstinent, semi-serious relationship. ... [snip!] ... I realize that sex is a free for all, these days, but does that mean I shouldn't teach what I think is moral? Of course not."

Well that sucks that you don't have sex until marriage lol. I mean I believe in holding out some, but not until I am married. To me a piece of paper that says I am married doesn't mean that much & most marriages end in divorce these days anyways.

Quoting TantricLemons:" damn temptation mean to confuse us... mumblemumblemumbleevolutionmumble mumbledinosaurs"

Some people need to study Biological Anthropology smh. lol.

Quoting ❥ Meℓi:" The dude who is for Abstinence Education is trying to say "They are going to end up with broken hearts if they just go out & have sex with whoever they want because they are given condoms.""

I think it's better they end up with broken hearts than all kinds of STD's just because they weren't educated on the subject.

Sex education, hands down. Abstinence education is a joke.

Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:" I think it's better they end up with broken hearts than all kinds of STD's just because they weren't educated on the subject."

Or pregnant lol. A broken heart is only temporary having a kid is a life time choice, some STD's also stick with you for the rest of your life.

Sex education. I attended Catholic School where we were taught not to have sex before Marriage, there was no sex education at all and the whole 6 years I was at that high school it was always absolutely full of teenage Mothers, pregnant teenagers and girls having abortions. My DH went to a non denominational school where they received full sex education from qualified sexual health nurses and for the full 6 years he was at that high school there was only ever one girl who got pregnant.

Not surprisingly our son attends a non denominational school.

Quoting xTJ:" Sex education. I attended Catholic School where we were taught not to have sex before Marriage, there ... [snip!] ... high school there was only ever one girl who got pregnant. Not surprisingly our son attends a non denominational school."

Yea, my mom is Catholic & I was raised that way but my mom ALWAYS told me to use condoms & birth control. When I felt it was time to get birth control I went to her & asked her. She got me some & I never got pregnant as a teen. My friends who had overly strict parents are the ones who got pregnant at 16.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ❥ Meℓi:</b>" Yea, my mom is Catholic & I was raised that way but my mom ALWAYS told me to use condoms & birth ... [snip!] ... got me some & I never got pregnant as a teen. My friends who had overly strict parents are the ones who got pregnant at 16."</blockquote>




Yes I know what you mean and agree that is normally the case. Ultimately I think sex education should come from the parents first and foremost and school should be secondary but unfortunately teenagers being brought up in strict/religious homes and schools do not get sex education from anywhere and they are the ones at risk. Simply saying don't do it or it's bad or whatever and nothing else doesn't work.

Quoting ❥ Meℓi:" Well that sucks that you don't have sex until marriage lol. I mean I believe in holding out some, but ... [snip!] ... To me a piece of paper that says I am married doesn't mean that much & most marriages end in divorce these days anyways."

It doesn't "suck" at all. Both of us are quite happy.

I do need that pesky piece of paper. I love the institution of marriage and all that it stands for, for me.

My first marriage didn't end in divorce. "Most" marriages may, but mine didn't. It works for me.

Where I live when I was in high school they taught abstinence only. We went from one teen pregnancy who was a senior to 15 in the senior class the next year. There were several others that next year as well. We have a very high rate of teen pregnancies.

I believe we should teach our kids how to protect themselves. You can teach them to be abstinent until you are blue in the face but if they are going to do it they will do it regardless.

<blockquote><b>Quoting xTJ:</b>" Sex education. I attended Catholic School where we were taught not to have sex before Marriage, there ... [snip!] ... high school there was only ever one girl who got pregnant. Not surprisingly our son attends a non denominational school."</blockquote>



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I had three best friends in middle and high school. Three of us went to regular school. My friend that went to a Christian academy was the first in our little "group" to lose her virginity.

Quoting xTJ:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ❥ Meℓi:</b>" Yea, my mom is Catholic & I was ... [snip!] ... from anywhere and they are the ones at risk. Simply saying don't do it or it's bad or whatever and nothing else doesn't work."

Yep, I totally agree.

Quoting ~Julie Blue Eyes~:" It doesn't "suck" at all. Both of us are quite happy. I do need that pesky piece of paper. I love the ... [snip!] ... that it stands for, for me. My first marriage didn't end in divorce. "Most" marriages may, but mine didn't. It works for me."

Well that's good for you, I love sex & I could not hold out on it for that long lol. I guess I don't value marriage like that. You must have found you a great guy because most dudes aren't going to wait. All of us have sexual needs & a lot of guys will go else where if they don't get it from their relationship. Just my experience though. I think relationships need intimacy to move forward to anything...

Quoting HopingforaMiracle:" Where I live when I was in high school they taught abstinence only. We went from one teen pregnancy who ... [snip!] ... You can teach them to be abstinent until you are blue in the face but if they are going to do it they will do it regardless."

Wow, that is crazy. I totally agree, teens will do as they please no matter how much you preach to them about abstinence. I would rather have my daughter know how to protect herself for when she got into that situation vs not knowing anything because I think abstinence is the ONLY way.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ❥ Meℓi:</b>" Wow, that is crazy. I totally agree, teens will do as they please no matter how much you preach to ... [snip!] ... how to protect herself for when she got into that situation vs not knowing anything because I think abstinence is the ONLY way."</blockquote>


Yea and my school wasnt big. We had 200 in that second class