A baby changes everything :(

I had my son September 28th 2012. Before then his father and I were just so happy. We always did things things together, hardly argued, always said 'I love you' talked about marriage...he even proposed a few days before I had our son. And now, it's like we don't even know each other. We hardly sleep in the same bed. I can barely stand him. We haven't had sex in I don't know how long (its more of me...I just don't get in the mood and he gets all pissed and upset and rants 'OH I JUST GIVE UP). He doesn't understand what pregnancy did to my body and such. I don't know.   We just don't see eye to eye on a lot of things anymore. Even when I go visit my mom who lives 30 mins away from me, I don't even miss him.   I dont know what to do. I don't want my son to have to visit dad separate from mom but I'm just not happy anymore.

It's tough for the first few months of the baby's life. DH and I went through the same thing after both our kids were born. We were sleep-deprived, stressed about money, unable to go anywhere or have time to ourselves[no babysitter] and our second baby cries all the time. I don't know your exact situation but those factors are common in a marriage with a newborn.

Put an effort in to seeing how what you are doing effects him. Try to talk to him and see if there are things you can both work on. Maybe see if your mom can watch your LO and y'all have a date night and try and reconnect with each other.

If you try all you can and still feel the same then I think you know it's time to give up and move on for your happiness. It's better to have a dad you go and visit than living in a house with parents that are constantly screaming and hate each other.

you probbaly have post partum depression.. its normal and ive had it with each of y kids, lose interest in sex, i lost interest in cleaning up thehouse all the time. things wlll get better, he jst needs to be there for you. pregnnacy is rough on your body and everything. and it doesnt stop as soon as the baby comes out. it takes month before your hormomes get back to normal .. and your body =)

Its normal!! It happens. A baby does change everything. There is a completely different dynamic and you ALL are learning to adjust. Have someone watch the baby and go on a date. You have to make time for both of you. With my first and my SO, my DH was worse than the baby. smh.

It can change a relationship a lot. You guys need to communicate and find time for each other and yourselves.

Does he help with the baby at all?
If not you may be feeling some resentment towards him and when a baby comes it's baby needing attention 24/7 before the baby it was just you and your DH. Maybe get your Mom to babysit and go on a romantic date with your SO tell him how you're feeling and see if you can work things out.

Try going out fora night with him. Have someone watch LO.

Quoting Aria Nicole:" I had my son September 28th 2012. Before then his father and I were just so happy. We always did things ... [snip!] ... him.   I dont know what to do. I don't want my son to have to visit dad separate from mom but I'm just not happy anymore. "

I understand but its seems your tying to give up too easy, and a relationship where both people aren't willing to do the work to fix things it's not going to last. You need to sit down with your SO and talk about things. If you really want to work things out then I suggest couples therapy. Helps with communication, understanding each other better and all that. Are you on state insurance or anything?

Quoting Xsecure mommaX:" you probbaly have post partum depression.. its normal and ive had it with each of y kids, lose interest ... [snip!] ... and it doesnt stop as soon as the baby comes out. it takes month before your hormomes get back to normal .. and your body =)"

If she has post partum depression then she needs to get help.

OP you should see a doctor asap. I had/have it too and it caused problems with mine and SO's relationship without me even realizing it. I tried dealing with it on my own or with SO and it wasn't enough, things got worse. Couples therapy and working on my issues I'm having has helped an incredible amount. He is working on hisself as well...slowly..lol but we're both working together. And that is what it takes to overcome relationship obstacles. I'm sure he doesn't realize what you're going through (guys have a harder time putting theirselves in someone else's shoes...at least my SO does lol) so if you could talk to your doctor, maybe he/she can explain things to your SO and give him a better understanding since he doesn't have a clue. Same for couples therapy, they will be fair and help you both understand each other & help point out how to fix things one step at a time. It's worth it if you guys want and will work to save/keep the relationship. Good luck! Keep posted

It can take a long time to adjust to parenthood. Not just for you but for him too. Don't give up because things have gotten hard. You guys have to try your best to work through it.

Sounds like you both need to start trying to communicate with each other a little better. Talk about the things that have changed & why. Try to figure out how you can start working towards making things better.

A baby DOES change everything but one thing I will never get is why women think that because they had a baby its suddenly ok not to have sex, and their partner should just "Deal".

men and women are sexual by nature. You would get upset if he didn't want you and you had a sex drive, no? Why is it different for men and suddenly make them pigs, needy, bossy, lame, idiots, selfish, etc? It doesn't. They enjoy sex. Give him a hand job or something. Put in SOME effort.