re: Why don't I hurt more?

As far as Im concerned there is no "norm" on how people should feel.

I wasnt upset at ALL when I had a miscarriage about a year ago. I felt bad that I didnt really care, but not about losing a pregnancy. I also dont consider it a "baby" or anything close to a "baby" --- We also have other kids, home, husband, lots going on.. lots to take care of.. it's not really practical to completely break down, maybe our sub-conscience knows that?

at any rate. im really sorry for your loss. :-(

Quoting shes*almost*one!:" As far as Im concerned there is no "norm" on how people should feel. I wasnt upset at ALL when I had ... [snip!] ... practical to completely break down, maybe our sub-conscience knows that? at any rate. im really sorry for your loss. :-("

Thank you. I actually think that's whats holding me at bay right now. I work full time, go to school full time, have a toddler, teenager, house to take care of etc. So, it's not practical for me to have a breakdown, of sorts. But my first day back at work yesterday when I was sitting at my desk with my thoughts, I kind of lost it.

We were "worried" about the financial aspect of another child, and at first we were just in shock and upset. We both came around to the idea, picked out names, etc. I still dont think I have been as upset as I have been in the past but maybe I'm older and wiser and know how to manage my emotions a little better than last time.