My daughters father lives 2 1/2 hours away. I met a guy shortly after I broke up with her dad, while we were up there so she could visit him. I go out with him every time I'm up there for a visit so about 2-3 dates every other month. In the beginning it was just for fun and for someone to go out with, he wasn't ready to actually be in a relationship and wasn't sure about being with someone who has a child. I've only dated one other guy in that time, who was a friend and I realized I only have "friend" feelings for.
Now he's been talking to me about a relationship and wants me to move up to Sacramento so we could have a relationship. I really do like this guy but do you think two years is adequate time for him to change his mind about dating someone with a child? He has never even met her, I didn't bring it up and he didn't ask but now he is asking to meet her.
I wouldn't mind moving there, it would be good for Alyssa and I. She would be able to spend more time with her dad and I'd have more help with her because her dad's family all love her so much and offer to babysit her anytime.. They also said they would watch her during the days if I was working or going to school. Also rent is about 1200 here for a 1 bedroom, and only 700-800 there. My family lives here in the bay area, but they aren't much help when it comes to Alyssa. I haven't even gone out without her in about 3 months :/
What do you all think of the situation? I really do like this guy and would love to try and see where a real relationship would take us. I just want to know my daughter isn't just something he's willing to "deal with" and that he would actually accept her and recognize that she comes first.
Other than the guy everything sounds good. I mean if you two don't end up working then you would have more than just him there. I'd say go for it, if you are comfortable and want to take the next step forward. Although, keep in mind. Just because ex's family says they will watch her during the day or what not- doesn't mean they will follow through.
That's the thing, he doesn't want to do a long distance relationship so I'd have to move closer in order to give it a try. The other thing is when I go up there I stay at my ex's with him and his family and even tho this guy knows about it and hasn't brought it up I'm pretty sure that'd be a dealbreaker.
Oh and of course I meant getting my own place not moving in with this guy