i feel bad for my so

he is so excited about this baby..im not i have been crying a lot and really sad plus extreamly sleepy and with pain because of a bleeding cyst i have. i just feel horrible he is always so great and i am so bitchy  . he says he see's this baby as motivation to work harder. we are both in college he is about to get his associates degree in may and he is so smart he gets A's and B's in everything and scored a high IQ score. and he isn't going to stop until he gets a masters in computer engineering. he says he will take care of me, but i am also in school and about to get into nursing. idk if i can handle all of this at once,i already have a 5 year old from my previous relationship that ended because he couldn't keep his penis in his pants! i just feel so confused like one day i am like oh ok ill keep this baby, i can do this .plus he always does things to comfort me and watches my daughter in the living room while i rest on the couch and cleans the dishes and vacuums and everything, i could not have asked for a better man than him. but then one day, i just cry and think man i don't want this baby...whats wrong with me? when i tell him he gets really sad but then he says well if that's what u want and what will make u happy then do it   but its killing him and me i don't know what to do

Sounds like your just overwhelmed.
Have you tried to write a pros and cons list with everything and seeing if it helps you out?

Maybe give it some time and it will sink in.


Or if you dont want it. Let him raise it. Idk.. I dont think i could abort a baby whos father really wanted it. Idk just me though

Quoting |♥| Jayme |♥|:" Sounds like your just overwhelmed. Have you tried to write a pros and cons list with everything and seeing if it helps you out?"

no i have not..goodness im scared to do that i think the negative will over power the good but yes that is a good idea i will do that

I think what you are feeling is very common, especially in the beginning. A lot of women feel overwhelmed and of course the new rush of hormones doesn't help.

Obviously it's a decision only you and your SO can make. But hopefully you feel better about it soon!

Quoting nani's mami:" no i have not..goodness im scared to do that i think the negative will over power the good but yes that is a good idea i will do that"

everything is scary right now, but i am sure you can do it if you and im really tried and yes definitely do that maybe you will be surprised and the negative wont over power the good!

Quoting Nicola =):" I think what you are feeling is very common, especially in the beginning. A lot of women feel overwhelmed ... [snip!] ... hormones doesn't help. Obviously it's a decision only you and your SO can make. But hopefully you feel better about it soon!"

i have cried a lot. for example going shopping for food and i just start getting emotional and i don't want people to look at me i just try to hold in the tears until i get back to the car then i just cry

<blockquote><b>Quoting nani's mami:</b>" no i have not..goodness im scared to do that i think the negative will over power the good but yes that is a good idea i will do that"</blockquote>



How so? I think you are just freaking out.  
You love your daughter alot right? Wht was it like when you found out you were pregnant with her? Scary probably right? What made it easy for you to continue your pregnanch and parent her? Im sure you will love this baby just s much

Quoting ☮ Phuket:" <blockquote><b>Quoting nani's mami:</b>" no i have not..goodness im scared to do ... [snip!] ... right? What made it easy for you to continue your pregnanch and parent her? Im sure you will love this baby just s much"

i agree

Quoting ☮ Phuket:" <blockquote><b>Quoting nani's mami:</b>" no i have not..goodness im scared to do ... [snip!] ... right? What made it easy for you to continue your pregnanch and parent her? Im sure you will love this baby just s much"

with her i was actually happy yea i know i am all reversed i was 18 when i had her and not in school and a big mess yet i was happy but now i am about to be 23 in less than a month and in school and i feel horrible as if i were a teenager or something.

Quoting nani's mami:" i have cried a lot. for example going shopping for food and i just start getting emotional and i don't ... [snip!] ... emotional and i don't want people to look at me i just try to hold in the tears until i get back to the car then i just cry"

Aw, I am sorry you are having such a hard time. Sounds like the hormones are really getting to you.
The best thing to do is let it all out! A good cry, or 10 never hurts!

<blockquote><b>Quoting nani's mami:</b>" with her i was actually happy yea i know i am all reversed i was 18 when i had her and not in school ... [snip!] ... happy but now i am about to be 23 in less than a month and in school and i feel horrible as if i were a teenager or something."</blockquote>




It might be a litttle harder but it wont be terrible. You SO is gonna support you, you can finish school and do all that. Dnt worry too much. You might worry yournwhole pregnancy, but when that baby comes out you will realize you were worried for nothing..

You're due on my birthday   (not that you care, haha)

You've got a lot on your plate, but you can do it. Emotions and hormones are running high right now. It's ok *hugs*

Quoting pilot Jess:" You're due on my birthday   (not that you care, haha) You've got a lot on your plate, but you can do it. Emotions and hormones are running high right now. It's ok *hugs*"

aww thank you hey u look sorta like alice form twilight..i think shes so pretty sorry that was outta the blue i just thought that when i looked at ur pic

Quoting ☮ Phuket:" <blockquote><b>Quoting nani's mami:</b>" with her i was actually happy yea i know ... [snip!] ... too much. You might worry yournwhole pregnancy, but when that baby comes out you will realize you were worried for nothing.."

i hope so, its not that i wouldn't feel love im just so confused and just feel so horrible, all he wants is to love the baby just like he said his parents loved him and all i talk about is well maybe when can have one later when we are done with school and then he gets sad