ideas on controlling a toddler

My 3 year old is mild/Moderatly Autistic and out of nowhere she is just acting up. the last 7 days or so she has been acting ridiculous. In medical daycare they keep telling me how bad she is and how she refuses to listen and how she laughs at them and does whatever she wants and although i have seen her like that before it wasnt that bad until tonight. I wanted to pull my hair out you have no idea. she kept touching things she knows she shouldnt be. she dumped out the whole entire bin of dog food. she keeps hitting and forcing her sister to do something when she doesnt want to. she refused to eat dinner (she threw the food) idk what to do. time/ naughty chair DOES NOT WORK i have been doing it consistly for months upon months now, i reward her for good before all the time (however seems to not be working) I try to get down to her level and talk to her and explain what she is doing wrong, but NOTHING IS WORKING. i feel like i need a xanax after tonight (im prescribed them but i seldomly take them)HELPPPPPPP!

I know close to nothing about autism so I am no expert but have you tried gluten-free diet for her? I've heard of parents having amazing success with their childs autistic-agressive behaviors with cutting gluten from their diet. Worth a shot?

I have a 3 year, who is not autistic, and he acts that way.

For the most part 3 years olds are just smurfs.

I take toys away, TV away, chocolate milk away, anything he likes.

I have to second changing the diet. My kids are young and no signs of autism thus far but changing diets would be my first step because there are even the most obscure things (food coloring!) that can cause a child to act out.

Also do you know if she has any triggers that set off her behavior? Changing a routine maybe?

Quoting Smartass *TTC*:" I have a 3 year, who is not autistic, and he acts that way. For the most part 3 years olds are just smurfs. I take toys away, TV away, chocolate milk away, anything he likes."

Lol

i warned her i was going to take toys and tv from her today and she looked at my and laughed and said no so i took toys and dora and tv from her today and she really didnt care and those are her favorite things. also i have no idea the only big thing we went through is when hurricane sandy ruined our place and we have to stay at my inlaws but that was over a month ago .. i cant see something that happened so long ago affecting her now right?

Quoting diiamondchula:" i warned her i was going to take toys and tv from her today and she looked at my and laughed and said ... [snip!] ... to stay at my inlaws but that was over a month ago .. i cant see something that happened so long ago affecting her now right?"

A month after the fact? Maybe, maybe not. She may just be realizing that she isn't going back to her home anymore. But I would opt for the not factor because it has been a month. Does she have a set routine at all at home or is it more of a free for all? If she is not on a routine you should try getting her on one and that may help. Even with a child who has no issues with anything they tend to do better with a routine in place.

everything she does is a routine we get up at the same time she goes to school and they have a routine. i pick her up at the same time we come home she has a snack then she watching some dora and than we eat dinner than she takes a bath and than i get her ready and she goes to bed

It could just be she is being a typical toddler and trying to extend her boundaries more. Try letting her pick out her clothes, or what food she wants (within limitations). When I was working as a teacher we were told to you "when you______ then you_________" To show them they have a choice on what they can do but it also encourages the right choice.

Another thing, do you have an area for quiet time? Again when I was working we had an area the kids could go to for free play and read(well as much as a 2 1/2 year old can read), it was also used for kids who got over stimulated or angry to calm down without disrupting the rest of the class. It was sort of private, enough to block stimulation but not so much to where the teacher couldn't watch the child. I do know with children in general that too much stimulation can cause issues.

I can't really give much more advice since I haven't experienced it much myself. All I know is what I have learned in the few childhood classes I have taken and from working at the daycare/preschool.