Anyone else feel like this when going from one child, to two

Don't get me wrong, I am so happy to be having another child. This pregnancy was planned and will be our second, and last child.

But, I feel this overwhelming feeling of sadness for my daughter (she's 3). She seems happy for a brother, but she doesn't really know what that is. I feel guilty knowing how much time a baby takes, and how it will be taking away from her time. I am nervous about how she's going to adjust to not being an only child. I feel like I haven't spent as much one on one time with her as I should have because I've been going crazy preparing for the baby.

Did anyone else feel this way? I'm having a repeat c section on Friday, and I just can't shake this feeling.

No, I never felt that way. I did, however, have a really time bonding with my second child. I dont know why. I loved her, of course but we didn't have a strong connection.

I just posted about this like two days ago. I have been crying non stop over it. I can't shake the feeling that DS is gonna hate me and hate his life when his sister comes. It doesn't help DH is deploying and I'll be doing it all on my own. Two kids under two with no help... super. Everyone has been super encouraging though; it's normal, and our LO's will adjust ! just gonna take time like everything else  

I feel the opposite. I feel guilty for not giving my son a sibling.

I worry about my dd too. She's 5 and has had us all to herself. She already loves her sister and asks if she can snuggle her and gives her her toys and wants to get her a Xmas gift. But I still have some guilt that it's gonna hurt her   I think it's diff when u have them close enough to not remember any different. But to have them at an age where they understand more is almost a little harder emotionally.

Quoting lolajessup:" I worry about my dd too. She's 5 and has had us all to herself. She already loves her sister and asks ... [snip!] ... to not remember any different. But to have them at an age where they understand more is almost a little harder emotionally."

This is exactly how I feel. I don't want her feelings to be hurt (she's really emotional as it is) and feel like I don't want to spend all the time with her. She's not going to understand that a breastfeeding newborn takes up so much time. I'm glad someone can relate, I don't feel so terrible about it.

I know it will all work out, I just hope it all comes easy!

Quoting CRSx2Mommy:" I just posted about this like two days ago. I have been crying non stop over it. I can't shake the feeling ... [snip!] ... has been super encouraging though; it's normal, and our LO's will adjust ! just gonna take time like everything else   "

My DH is in the military too. I'm sorry he's deploying so soon after you have your LO. Are you near family at least?

<blockquote><b>Quoting B♥Z:</b>" Don't get me wrong, I am so happy to be having another child. This pregnancy was planned and will be ... [snip!] ... for the baby. Did anyone else feel this way? I'm having a repeat c section on Friday, and I just can't shake this feeling."</blockquote>




I felt that way.... I even postponed my induction a week just to have a little more
Time with my oldest but at soon as Alexander was born it all went away. Zachary was so excited to be a big brother and this far
He hasn't shown any real jealousy like I feared would happen(:

It'll work out mama! Hope you have an easy recovery!

Quoting Pnire:]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting B♥Z:</b>" Don't get me wrong, I am so happy to be having ... [snip!] ... this far He hasn't shown any real jealousy like I feared would happen(: It'll work out mama! Hope you have an easy recovery!"

I hope our transition goes as smooth! Thank you!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jalen's mommy:</b>" I feel the opposite. I feel guilty for not giving my son a sibling."</blockquote>



I felt that too haha. It's like a tornado of feelings inside  

Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jalen's mommy:</b>" I feel the opposite. I feel guilty for not ... [snip!] ... guilty for not giving my son a sibling."</blockquote> I felt that too haha. It's like a tornado of feelings inside  "

 

Quoting B♥Z:" My DH is in the military too. I'm sorry he's deploying so soon after you have your LO. Are you near family at least?"

nope. I have no one within 400 miles of me that can help. I am gonna have to look into nanny services. I just hope I don't lose my smurf.

<blockquote><b>Quoting B♥Z:</b>" This is exactly how I feel. I don't want her feelings to be hurt (she's really emotional as it is) and ... [snip!] ... I'm glad someone can relate, I don't feel so terrible about it. I know it will all work out, I just hope it all comes easy!"</blockquote>
Oh yeah you're not alone mama. And it will work out.

Quoting Jalen's mommy:" I feel the opposite. I feel guilty for not giving my son a sibling."

Me, too. Wish we were financially ready... Someday.

My daughter was almost 4 when her sister was born and she did have quite a hard time adjusting at first, she acted out a lot at first and was quite difficult. It didn't help that she was starting nursery school a month later and felt pushed out that she was going there when I was at home with the baby. It was also hard for her because I too had a repeat c-section so wasn't up to playing with her like I normally would for a few weeks. What helped was to give her LOTS of love and reassurance and also to get her involved in looking after her sister and helping mommy. She adores her sister now and although she does still get jealous sometimes she copes very well. Good luck mama!