what do i do about my daughter she is acting out badly

okay here is a little bit of my back story. well me and so got custody of her daughter in may but we had her since december 2011..well before that she took matches and lite them. then i brought her a new bed and she cut that bed all to pieces...then she destorys things all the time she has been here over a year i know its not that...and i found out that she cut another new bed that i am renting off of rentacenter...what can i do she does nothing but lie about everything anymore....she goes to her moms and comes home with a smart mouth toward my younger daughter i dont know what else to do i am getting her help but not for a couple more months....what do i do till then?

How old is she?

And what do you do right now for discipline

Quoting Cassie♥:" How old is she?"

she is 5 gonna be 6 in may.

Quoting ~*rip to my baby november:" she is 5 gonna be 6 in may."

what is she cutting the matress with?
and what do you try for discipline right now?

Ever consider the change might be effecting her? Maybe spend some one on one time with her?

a knife....she will climb...on things...and there isnt a change she has lived with us for a year now...its not a change.

Quoting ~*rip to my baby november:" a knife....she will climb...on things...and there isnt a change she has lived with us for a year now...its not a change."

is there a way you can make it so the knifes are not available to her?

I would try making her feel loved and valued, give her attention. A child that is going that far out of thier way to destroy things is looking for major attention, which means she isn't getting it. Try doing daughter dates where its just you and her, and none of her siblings. The rewards system works greatly as well. anytime she DOES do something right or kind, awknowledge it and get excited about it, she will see that doing good gets her attention, instead of doing bad. For discipline, that all depends on the forms you have been using.

Quoting Cassie♥:" is there a way you can make it so the knifes are not available to her? I would try making her feel ... [snip!] ... that doing good gets her attention, instead of doing bad. For discipline, that all depends on the forms you have been using."

we do all the time...yesterday we went to her school and did something with just me and her its bigger i thiink it might be her mom is doing something idk tho

Quoting ~*rip to my baby november:" we do all the time...yesterday we went to her school and did something with just me and her its bigger i thiink it might be her mom is doing something idk tho"

yeah its hard in mixed families, I would deff seek counseling since your not sure what goes on at the other home.

Quoting Cassie♥:" yeah its hard in mixed families, I would deff seek counseling since your not sure what goes on at the other home."

yeah its bullsmurf....i heard her mom doesnt feed her but i cant say that

Quoting ~*rip to my baby november:" yeah its bullsmurf....i heard her mom doesnt feed her but i cant say that"

Sad   Well unfotunetly you can only control what goes on at your house... and I would deff figure out how to get the knives under control... it is dangerous to have the knives in access for a 5 year old... especially one who is acting out, she could even harm your younger daughter and wouldn't understand what she is doing.

Quoting Cassie♥:" Sad   Well unfotunetly you can only control what goes on at your house... and I would deff figure ... [snip!] ... old... especially one who is acting out, she could even harm your younger daughter and wouldn't understand what she is doing."

yeah but she can climb everywhere so there aint a place to put it yesterday she got up on my husband tall ass dresser and got the baby knife how did she know it was there i have know freaking clue,,,