re: will CPS take my son

Quoting Michael Westen:" So what you're saying is it would be normal if I divorced DH and he won custody of my daughter, I shouldn't acknowledge her anymore?"

Apparently that's exactly what she's saying.
I don't know how a person could claim to love their son so much that they make sure they are still in his life and don't "want to mess up his life" but then not claim him as their son?? Makes absolutely no sense.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ash*leigh:</b>" Even if she would have acknowledged him she would be getting criticized right now for "claiming" a child ... [snip!] ... now for "claiming" a child that she doesn't have custody of. She is basically damned if she does and damned if she doesn't!"</blockquote>

Its because out of left field she started talking about a 7 year old son and everyone thought it was the step son in her about me... she isn't being judged on her past. Its just hard to understand anything when smurf is all over the place. You cant expect to post something so personal on a forum and when asking for advice NOT give the back story in full.

Quoting ash*leigh:" Even if she would have acknowledged him she would be getting criticized right now for "claiming" a child ... [snip!] ... now for "claiming" a child that she doesn't have custody of. She is basically damned if she does and damned if she doesn't!"

I've never seen anything like that before.

And people want to talk smurf about grammar! Work on your math skills.

She has 2 living biological children.
She has 2 EX step children.
She is currently pregnant with 1.
2+2+1= 5 (amazing how that works)
subtract the step children that would =3
subtract the child she lost custody of that would =2

She is currently concerned about losing her infant son and unborn child! Not too hard to figure out and really not all that confusing.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ash*leigh:</b>" And people want to talk smurf about grammar! Work on your math skills. She has 2 living biological children. ... [snip!] ... currently concerned about losing her infant son and unborn child! Not too hard to figure out and really not all that confusing."</blockquote>



Why are you being so defensive? If she is an unfit mother she will lose them. If she is not she will not lose them. How many times does she need to be told that? I alone have said it 3 times now. If she doesn't know whether she is a good mom or not BG cant help her

Arighty, I'm done with this thred. Apparently I can't read, so I'm not going to bother anymore.  

PS.. I still think OP is a bs'er.

Her rights were taken from her... she has zero rights to him... and like I said with as judgmental as you ladies are you likely would have ridiculed her if she would have claimed him.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ash*leigh:</b>" And people want to talk smurf about grammar! Work on your math skills. She has 2 living biological children. ... [snip!] ... currently concerned about losing her infant son and unborn child! Not too hard to figure out and really not all that confusing."</blockquote>




Then she shouldn't claim all the others and not her biological son. That's not all that confusing either, unless you are dense.... Which you apparently are.

Quoting MommyToWesley:" Isn't that exactly what she said? You have 5 kids including the one who are pregnant with. Two aren't ... [snip!] ... (son who you don't have) + 2 (step kids- who you claim) + 1 (your 1 month old) + 1 (baby with whom you are pregnant) = 5 kids."

yea in my about me it says that we were together when i made my profile we arent together no more i left him last friday

Quoting Kimberlea Boggs:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ash*leigh:</b>" And people want to talk smurf about grammar! ... [snip!] ... need to be told that? I alone have said it 3 times now. If she doesn't know whether she is a good mom or not BG cant help her"

She came on here with a concern regarding her infant son and her unborn child. I don't think she should be getting judged for something that she has obviously already been legally judged for. (meaning her oldest child) If people think she is lying about it then they should just ignore it all together.

Quoting ash*leigh:" And people want to talk smurf about grammar! Work on your math skills. She has 2 living biological children. ... [snip!] ... currently concerned about losing her infant son and unborn child! Not too hard to figure out and really not all that confusing."

Thank you finally someone who understands

Quoting ash*leigh:" And people want to talk smurf about grammar! Work on your math skills. She has 2 living biological children. ... [snip!] ... currently concerned about losing her infant son and unborn child! Not too hard to figure out and really not all that confusing."

When it's in a giant no sense making paragraph with very little punctuation it's hard to figure out. Especially since the whole story started off with 3 kids.

Quoting ash*leigh:" Her rights were taken from her... she has zero rights to him... and like I said with as judgmental as you ladies are you likely would have ridiculed her if she would have claimed him."

I'm not really that judgmental. Seriously. Nobody would have ridiculed her. Smurf, I know a girl in real life who gave her first kid up for ADOPTION and she still counts that kid as her daughter.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ash*leigh:</b>" She came on here with a concern regarding her infant son and her unborn child. I don't think she should ... [snip!] ... judged for. (meaning her oldest child) If people think she is lying about it then they should just ignore it all together."</blockquote>




And she was given advice... true, concrete advice. If she doesn't wanna take it, whatever. None of us can tell her if her baby will be taken away.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Michael Westen:</b>" I'm not really that judgmental. Seriously. Nobody would have ridiculed her. Smurf, I know a girl in real life who gave her first kid up for ADOPTION and she still counts that kid as her daughter."</blockquote>


I know lots of mothers who do that.