re: How important...

Quoting Xander's Mumma:" what bothers me the most is that I'm constantly giving and giving and giving, and getting nothing. it's ... [snip!] ... and thats it. sometimes i get off, sometimes i don't. i strongly believe in foreplay, yet he doesn't return the favor. nothing."

See, thats the problem imo

He is not making you a priority.

Quoting →Ebahϖ:" if he doesnt want the lady juices you could tell him to eat your butt out insted. not a whole lot of juices going on there xD"

LMAO! that just made me cringe a little

Quoting →Ebahϖ:" if he doesnt want the lady juices you could tell him to eat your butt out insted. not a whole lot of juices going on there xD"

OMG 

Quoting .Colleen.:" See, thats the problem imo He is not making you a priority."

Exactly! I mean it would be so different if I got off before we even had sex, because sex seriously lasts only a couple of minutes because "we never had sex" i would want to have sex more if i actually got something out of it.  

Quoting Xander's Mumma:" LMAO! that just made me cringe a little "

lmao xD i couldnt help myself

Quoting Xander's Mumma:" Exactly! I mean it would be so different if I got off before we even had sex, because sex seriously ... [snip!] ... only a couple of minutes because "we never had sex" i would want to have sex more if i actually got something out of it.  "

I would def tell him how it makes you feel

Maybe if he realizes it, he may try a little harder

Quoting .Colleen.:" I would def tell him how it makes you feel Maybe if he realizes it, he may try a little harder"

I hope so! Maybe it's like an experience thing with him.. he hasn't been with many girls and he lost his vcard when he was 22. he's almost 25 now.. I dunnno

Quoting Xander's Mumma:" I hope so! Maybe it's like an experience thing with him.. he hasn't been with many girls and he lost his vcard when he was 22. he's almost 25 now.. I dunnno"

I mean, you don't want to pressure him to do stuff he does not like, but it would be nice if he made an effort.

I mean hell, I'm not in love with him shooting it all over me, but I can take one for the team, if you kwim  

its a matter of making your partners happiness a priority

Quoting .Colleen.:" I mean, you don't want to pressure him to do stuff he does not like, but it would be nice if he made ... [snip!] ... it all over me, but I can take one for the team, if you kwim   its a matter of making your partners happiness a priority"

Yes! Every once in a while I'll let him blow it in my mouth, and honestly I HATE that, but I'll do it because it loves it. I will sit down with him when he gets home and hopefully we can come up with something! But last night he did not seem too thrilled at all

Quoting Xander's Mumma:" Yes! Every once in a while I'll let him blow it in my mouth, and honestly I HATE that, but I'll do it ... [snip!] ... down with him when he gets home and hopefully we can come up with something! But last night he did not seem too thrilled at all"

I think you need to be sure he knows that you are doing something for him that you don't necessarily like but because he is your partner, his happiness is important to you.

Quoting .Colleen.:" I think you need to be sure he knows that you are doing something for him that you don't necessarily like but because he is your partner, his happiness is important to you. "

I will give it a shot. Thanks!  

Oral is very important to both me and my SO. We both give each other oral basically everytime we have sex and we take our time on each other. I don't think I could just not have it ever again.I would refuse to give your SO bj's if he won't go down on you. Sorry but even if you don't like something, I think you should suck it up and do it here and there because you love someone and you know it may be important to them.

Quoting kimzog:" Oral is very important to both me and my SO. We both give each other oral basically everytime we have ... [snip!] ... I think you should suck it up and do it here and there because you love someone and you know it may be important to them."

Yes! I could not agree more