34 weeks &terrified!

Im actually really scared for labour now! Ive got 6 weeks to go to my die date &as its creeping close &closer i just really nervous &my heart pounds whenever i think of labour! I wanna try keep it as natural as poss but every keep telling me there 'labour horror stories' &its making me want her to just stay there LOL! Even though i do want to meet her &cant wait too im just sooo scared &a baby woth pain.. Btw if you havent have giessed already im a first time mum! I keep thinking 'its not that bad people have had loads of kids if it was that bad they wouldnt have soo many but than i think smurff its gonna kill! Any advice to put my mind a rest??? Freaking out! Also seeing midwife today &a liytle nervouse as little one has hardly moved today so im scared at what she might say but im sire ill be fine i always worry incase she cant find a heartbeat or something &it always come out that little one is completely healthy.. But my syomach is hurting today &she always frels my belly to see how shes lying &today i dont really want her to as my stomach hurts to touch  

LOL your "die date"... Freudian slip anyone?

Seriously you are just hyping yourself up.

Remember that your body was MADE to do this. Everything about you is designed to go through child birth.

What little pain you will have will be fast and you will forget ALL about it the second you are done. Really. I cannot even remember what a contraction feels like and it's only been 4 years.

Quoting Smartass *TTC*:" Seriously you are just hyping yourself up. Remember that your body was MADE to do this. Everything ... [snip!] ... ALL about it the second you are done. Really. I cannot even remember what a contraction feels like and it's only been 4 years."

  This exactly.

I don't remember contraction pains and I delivered 9 months ago with no pain management.

<blockquote><b>Quoting CRSx2Mommy:</b>" LOL your "die date"... Freudian slip anyone? "</blockquote>


Ohh dearr! Cant believe i put that! I posted this off my phone, stupid touch screen lmao! X

Quoting Charlotte'Louise Gunn:" Im actually really scared for labour now! Ive got 6 weeks to go to my die date &as its creeping close ... [snip!] ... hurting today &she always frels my belly to see how shes lying &today i dont really want her to as my stomach hurts to touch  "

Take a deep breath  .

I think it's very normal to be scared of labour, especially since women love to tell stories about how much they had to endure to have their baby. If it bothers you, then next time someone starts to tell you about their labour, cut them off, tell them you would love to hear about it, but not until your baby is born  .

I had amazing experiences. I actually enjoyed dilating with my second, it was fun and felt amazing! I think it would have been an 'orgasmic' experience if it hadn't been at the hospital, or if I had more privacy  . Both birth experiences made me a more confident person.

For amazing natural births, these were the things that worked best for me:
- hiring a birth doula
- practising relaxation techniques (I used guided meditation CDs and a bit of HypnoBabies)
- Two books helped so much:
Ina May's Guide to Childbirth
Childbirth Without Fear (Grantly Dick-Read)

Quoting Smartass *TTC*:" Seriously you are just hyping yourself up. Remember that your body was MADE to do this. Everything ... [snip!] ... ALL about it the second you are done. Really. I cannot even remember what a contraction feels like and it's only been 4 years."

   
Honestly don't worry. The entinox (gas and air) was my best friend in labour. i felt totally high and euphoric, the pain was still there but time went so quickly and it helped me distance myself from the pain.

Oh, I forgot a couple of things that helped:
- staying out of bed. The few contractions I had in bed or in the car hurt. The contractions I had while I was upright or in the tub were intense but I did not consider them painful.
- water  . I loved being in the tub during labour. My son was born in the tub!

It just seemed everyone i know has had bad experiances lmao.. I dont mind the idea of gas &air but i dont like the sound of the other methods of pain relief but everyone keeps telling me not to refuse.pain relief as ill regret it &it will be too late x

Quoting Charlotte'Louise Gunn:" It just seemed everyone i know has had bad experiances lmao.. I dont mind the idea of gas &air but i ... [snip!] ... other methods of pain relief but everyone keeps telling me not to refuse.pain relief as ill regret it &it will be too late x"

Gas and air is amazing. I also had the diamorphine. You can have it anytime as long as your at least 4 hours away from giving birth as it can make them drowsy. It doesn't completely remove the pain but it takes the edge off and calms you down as well, it helped me, especially with the panicky feeling!
Pain relief is completely your choice. You may start contracting and want everything, you may just want the gas and air. You won't know until your in that situation. Just go with the flow, your body was made to birth babies and if it was really bad women wouldn't keep doing it again!
Everyone is always quick to give horror stories, especially watching one born every minute. Hardly anyone tells you about their good experiences. It's different for everyone. I had a hard labour that was quite bad, a lot of things went wrong but you just deal with it, go with the flow and I'd do it all over again in a heartbeat if it meant having my son.

Stop listening to everyone else!! Every birthing experience is different! I hated when ppl told me their horror stories... I find it to be incredibly rude. I aint gonna lie... labor is hard work.. that's why its called labor... but you forget it instantly... if not soon after. I personally got an epidural, and I praise the man that invented that smurf! I felt NOTHING! I had maybe 20 mins of hardcore labor pains. There is no shame in changing your birth plan if you feel you need to. Don't write the epidural off... have it in the back of your head as an option.... and if you need it great... get it... if you don't then even better! Just keep in mind, you will not die, you will get through it, and your body was built to do this smurf!... every woman (well almost) does this and has for centuries.... YOU CAN DO IT TOO!

<blockquote><b>Quoting ßεχ™:</b>" Gas and air is amazing. I also had the diamorphine. You can have it anytime as long as your at least ... [snip!] ... went wrong but you just deal with it, go with the flow and I'd do it all over again in a heartbeat if it meant having my son."</blockquote>



Yeah thats what i keep thinking they tell me they had a horrible labour than they have another baba im like of it was that bad you.sirely wouldnt do it again! I cant wait till i have my little girl here! I have so much love for her already &shes not even here yet! Cant wait to meet her but also scared about labour, being a mum, everything! I have so many books on labour &looking after babies &everything think i need to stop stressing i have loads resorces &help from family &friends just think im having one of my stress head days lool x

Quoting Charlotte'Louise Gunn:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ßεχ™:</b>" Gas and air is amazing. I also had the ... [snip!] ... need to stop stressing i have loads resorces &help from family &friends just think im having one of my stress head days lool x"

Exactly, if it was that traumatic they wouldn't do it again. Labour is hard but it's what you're built for and it's managable. You'll be fine honestly, don't listen to people and don't take it to heart.
You'll be surprised and amazed how strong you are and how capable your body is!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Fo Shizzle My Nizzle:</b>" Stop listening to everyone else!! Every birthing experience is different! I hated when ppl told me their ... [snip!] ... and your body was built to do this smurf!... every woman (well almost) does this and has for centuries.... YOU CAN DO IT TOO!"</blockquote>




Ive also heard bad stories of epidural aswell.. Someone told me it can para you or gove.you bad back pain for months after.. I think i should just stop listening to people! As there just making my stress head worse lmao x

Quoting Charlotte'Louise Gunn:" It just seemed everyone i know has had bad experiances lmao.. I dont mind the idea of gas &air but i ... [snip!] ... other methods of pain relief but everyone keeps telling me not to refuse.pain relief as ill regret it &it will be too late x"

I had people tell me I was crazy/naive for wanting to give birth without any pain relief, and asking me why I wouldn't want to have a wonderful experience/memory that I couldn't get without pain relief. Really? I was so fed up with people telling me their overly dramatic horror stories.
It was the most amazing experience for me and I would go through it everyday if I could, just to experience the most wonderful feeling you'll ever feel in your life.