second opinion

Yesterday went for my 2nd opinion and i am preg. I had been depressed since i found out and after everything that happend and even more after yesterday but i feel alot better today after having a good talk with my mom. my son and i are going to be staying with my parents until i get back on my feet and they are going to help me as much as they can. As for my EX he has been trying to get me to come back to him, he drove all the way here on sunday to bring my car keys he clamis he spent all of friday night lookning for them outside of the apartment and that should show he really cared. i told him if he hadn't throw them out then he wouldn't had to find them besides i didn't ask him to and that i am never going back to him. he got eally pissed after but ccouldn't do anything becuase my parents where standing their the whole time so he told me that he is going to take me to court and gtet our son and the one i am preg with. so i guess i am suppose to fight him in court now.

Breastfeed the new baby exclusively as long as possible! You do not want a newborn away from you very long. If you breastfeed the court can't usually mess with you.

Quoting kate & tilly:" Breastfeed the new baby exclusively as long as possible! You do not want a newborn away from you very long. If you breastfeed the court can't usually mess with you."

I am breastfeeding. I don't see how a court could let him have him he never did anything for our son. when he was in the hospital he only came to see him when he wanted to and when he did he never helped with him when he came home from the hospital last month im the only one who got up with him, fed him, changed him, and stayed up with him all night it was all me. he is a mean and abusive person and i would go crazy if the gave him to him.

Is he on the birth certificate?

Quoting kate & tilly:" Is he on the birth certificate?"

yea he is

Bring up the fact that he's abusive in court to see if that will block visitation for a bit. If you have documented proof use it. Like police reports or photos. Non related witnesses to anything verbally abusive. Start compiling it all now is my advice. You may not be able to block him forever in court but I hope you can. I hate good for nothing men! I hope everything gets much better for you soon! It wasn't so long ago that I watched my sister go through all of this. It does get easier.

As long as you r taking care of ur kids they cant take them away from the mother they would find it in the best interest of the child to stay with mither

Quoting kate & tilly:" Bring up the fact that he's abusive in court to see if that will block visitation for a bit. If you have ... [snip!] ... gets much better for you soon! It wasn't so long ago that I watched my sister go through all of this. It does get easier."

I have been to the hospital on a few diffrent occasion and i don't know if anything was documented since i lied about what really happened i know after i had my son the hospital social worker came and talked to me but i just made somthing up with her too so i don't know if that was documented either. I think i am sol in that department. but since my son is only a month old and i am breastfeeding they won't give him to him will they?

Breast feeding is what blocked my sisters ex from visitation for three months. After that because of all the abuse allegations he was only allowed supervised visits for a 2 hour block twice a week. His dad was a lawyer at the time so he basically kept us in court for a few years till his dad stopped practicing. Get any medical records you can! Sometimes if they suspect abuse they will note it on there. We proved a lot with one of those.

Quoting kate & tilly:" Breast feeding is what blocked my sisters ex from visitation for three months. After that because of ... [snip!] ... Get any medical records you can! Sometimes if they suspect abuse they will note it on there. We proved a lot with one of those."

ok looks like i got alot of work ahead of me. he called my this morning asking for to bring my son to him and i toold him no i didn't want my son around him and wasn't going anywhere near him. he got mad and started making a bunch of threats telling me if i didn't let him see my son i wouldn't live to see his first Bday, he said that he was going to get his lawyer and he was going to get full custody of my son and my unborn baby then he was going to call CPS on me so he could get my son aways from until he could get him quicker. and since i had an open case before with my oldest that i don't have custody of they will take him. is any of this true?

<blockquote><b>Quoting nikkigoodbear:</b>" ok looks like i got alot of work ahead of me. he called my this morning asking for to bring my son to ... [snip!] ... and since i had an open case before with my oldest that i don't have custody of they will take him. is any of this true?"</blockquote>




It depends on if your case is still open with your oldest I believe and how your life compares to the way it was when the case was open. However he threatened to kill you and I would be getting a restraining order. That's one way to document his threats. His threat was a pretty serious one. Do you have a lawyer? I would find one ASAP. You can call your state bar and find one that is taking clients pro bono. Every lawyer has to complete a certain number of pro bono cases a year to stay registered as a bar member I believe.

Quoting nikkigoodbear:" ok looks like i got alot of work ahead of me. he called my this morning asking for to bring my son to ... [snip!] ... and since i had an open case before with my oldest that i don't have custody of they will take him. is any of this true?"

What that other girl said is true, call the hospital..... actually I would go to the hospital and ask for your medical records. Especially if you see a nurse that has treated you. I'm in nursing school and they definitely mark it down if they suspect abuse. Even if not, numerous medical records with you beat up in the hospital is only going to help your case. I hope you record your phone calls when he threatens you. My only advice is to be smart and keep a record of everything. I would even block his number or change yours. Also, as far as I know, and this was true in Tx, they don't allow pregnant women to go to court, they will wait until you deliver.

<blockquote><b>Quoting BBBBB:</b>" What that other girl said is true, call the hospital..... actually I would go to the hospital and ask ... [snip!] ... as far as I know, and this was true in Tx, they don't allow pregnant women to go to court, they will wait until you deliver."</blockquote>




Weird I've never heard that. But I was in Nevada. I think if CPS actually does get involved they don't care and you'll still be going. But he can't take you to court for the child you are pregnant with. Just the child who is already born.

Quoting kate & tilly:" <blockquote><b>Quoting nikkigoodbear:</b>" ok looks like i got alot of work ahead ... [snip!] ... pro bono. Every lawyer has to complete a certain number of pro bono cases a year to stay registered as a bar member I believe."

My case is closed my oldest who was taken father has full custody of him. i did go get a protection order on him and my court date is set for the 19th.

Quoting BBBBB:" What that other girl said is true, call the hospital..... actually I would go to the hospital and ask ... [snip!] ... as far as I know, and this was true in Tx, they don't allow pregnant women to go to court, they will wait until you deliver."

i got my hospital records they did have it marked down that they suspected abuse from the times i was treated there and also it's in the reports taken by the hospital social worker after i had my son.