re: Reasons you DON'T want to have SEX.

Pregnancy  

I wanted it all the time w/ Rocco, but this time around I don't give a smurf. It feels uncomfortable to me   I'm fine normally having sex 1-2 times a wk. It just isn't something I think about constantly.

not in the mood, always tired, i honestly dont feel attractive afterhaving DS, my boobs are all saggy and my belly is all jiggly, and sex feels like a chore to me, ever since having DS it hurts when we start having sex, after awhile it ges away but every time when he first goes in it hurts, and DH works 3rd shift so hes gone at night and he sleeps most all the day and he wants to have sex but DS is awake so obviously we cant, we havent had sex in like a week, i tried to tonight but he said he wasnt in the mood......

Quoting ❥New Beginnings:" Well when my sex drive was low we were lucky to have sex once everyother week. IDK why I didn't want it I just didn't. thank god it's back though lol"

In my entire 'sexual' life (er, is that how you say it? haha, my life since being sexually active?) i've never once had the feeling of just not wanting to  
I'll admit, it's kinda odd of me, haha.

Quoting KNZ.:" but...but...you're crazy hot. "

ya know, I get that reaction a lot. hahahaha. Everybody wants in my pants, everyone, and I'm sooooooooooo good a denying them, which makes them want me more. LMAO. I thought I had thyroid problems or something cuz I've never really been into it. Idk, it's not that I don't get turned on and that it doesn't feel good or something. I just get bored and want it over with lol

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Rice:</b>" My DH and I both have lower sex drives now that we have kids. I am a boring old lady.....I try to be ... [snip!] ... My DH usually stays up until 10:30. Once a week is good for us. Honestly the thought of sex everyday sounds like a chore to me."</blockquote>


I understand the chore thing. When we were TTC doing it everyday, sometimes twice a day for a week was so exhausting. By the end we were like hurry up, bang, bang, done, lol. We didn't have sex for two weeks after. Luckily, we got pregnant first try. I can not have sex like that every month!!! But I guess when your scheduled to have sex it's different.

Quoting £egendary £ex:" Pregnancy   I wanted it all the time w/ Rocco, but this time around I don't give a smurf. It feels ... [snip!] ... It feels uncomfortable to me   I'm fine normally having sex 1-2 times a wk. It just isn't something I think about constantly."

ugh, i wish i could catch a break like that! jason makes fun of me for how high my sex drive is. we'll get done and he'll be like, "so, are you good now for the next 10 minutes?"

Quoting KNZ.:" In my entire 'sexual' life (er, is that how you say it? haha, my life since being sexually active?) ... [snip!] ... being sexually active?) i've never once had the feeling of just not wanting to   I'll admit, it's kinda odd of me, haha."

It was soooooo frustrating I don't even know how to describe it. the times we did do it were just because i was taking one for the team. It was like that from the time I had DD up until this past june. so almost 2 years!

I'm back to being a horn dog again thankfully

Quoting ❥New Beginnings:" It was soooooo frustrating I don't even know how to describe it. the times we did do it were just ... [snip!] ... like that from the time I had DD up until this past june. so almost 2 years! I'm back to being a horn dog again thankfully"

thank goodness  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bananas For Babies:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Rice:</b>" My DH and I both have lower sex drives now that ... [snip!] ... pregnant first try. I can not have sex like that every month!!! But I guess when your scheduled to have sex it's different."</blockquote>

We did have sex everyday while TTC my DS. That is how I formed my "chore" opinion. It lost the fun and enjoyment....it was kinda like you said, I just wanted to get it over with.

Quoting KNZ.:" I know, all these sex questions on the boards right now. I've asked about this in threads before, but ... [snip!] ... how do you go to bed with your partner, not having sex, or even thinking of having it? I would kill for a lower sex drive."

Pretty much just not interested, I guess. He's not really super sex driven and neither am I, we'd both rather do other stuff. I think maybe part of it is our age? I had a higher sex drive when I was younger, but I'm just sorta over it now.

Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:" Pretty much just not interested, I guess. He's not really super sex driven and neither am I, we'd both ... [snip!] ... other stuff. I think maybe part of it is our age? I had a higher sex drive when I was younger, but I'm just sorta over it now. "

That's another way jason and i are different (wait, are there any ways we're the same???) After sex he wants to pass out and go to sleep, and i'm just like, "er...i have smurf to do".  

Quoting Vivian [♥]:" ya know, I get that reaction a lot. hahahaha. Everybody wants in my pants, everyone, and I'm sooooooooooo ... [snip!] ... Idk, it's not that I don't get turned on and that it doesn't feel good or something. I just get bored and want it over with lol"

That is craaaziness  
Though, i wouldn't mind having a little bit of that state of mind, ha.

Quoting KNZ.:" That's another way jason and i are different (wait, are there any ways we're the same???) After sex he wants to pass out and go to sleep, and i'm just like, "er...i have smurf to do".  "

I'm like, ok, well, thanks, that was great-now--back to what I was doing.


I think another thing for me is that I smoke pot at night, and then, I'm either crafting, working, sleeping, or planning. Plus it makes me feel sort of silly about sex. Like, the last thing I want is a big ol weiner anywhere near me.

Quoting KNZ.:" ugh, i wish i could catch a break like that! jason makes fun of me for how high my sex drive is. we'll get done and he'll be like, "so, are you good now for the next 10 minutes?" "

LOL  

Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:" I'm like, ok, well, thanks, that was great-now--back to what I was doing. I think another thing for ... [snip!] ... or planning. Plus it makes me feel sort of silly about sex. Like, the last thing I want is a big ol weiner anywhere near me. "

hahaha, oh god, i read that as "big bowl o' wiener".
and no one wants that