I would be happy with once a week but that doesn't always happen with working different shifts, having a baby and his mother and sister living with us we are lucky to have "alone" time every other week  

Quoting Sweetheart...*:" Idk, maybe 2-3 times a week."

This!

Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:" The two ladies that have sex 2-3 times a week...how long have you been with your SO/DH?"

We've been together for almost 10 years. Married for 3 years in Jan.

We are lucky if we have it once a week... We used to have sex 4-5 times a week and some times more than once a day. But I have almost no sex drive what so ever anymore....

sex in our relationship is important to me so i say 8 or 9

we have sex well did 2-3 x a week and have been together 8 yrs.

now we are both busy ..well he is working all day then school at night...so we do it maybe 1-2 times if im lucky  

eta:

when we were newlyweds..and what not for the first 1-2 yrs we literally did it almost everyday!!!\
then went to 3-4 times...sometimes 5x

We maybe go a couple weeks to three weeks without. But then there are some weeks where it's 3-5 times a week. It just depends on the business of our lives that week, kids, work, etc.

It's important, maybe 5-6, but definitely not the most important. We are okay with like 2 times a month and don't really even fight over it. Sometimes I want it more and I get bummed but I'm not that upset. I love my husband for A LOT more than his penis. That's an added bonus!

We don't even have a routine sex life. It's really hard with the 2 kids (preg with #3) & my brother lives with us. I'm not comfortable getting down and dirty when he's home or when the kids are awake, for that matter. He works 12 hours a day, while I'm at home with a 3 year old running rings around me. We're both exhausted. We've been together nearly 7 years.

I think sex helps in relieving tensions and frustrations but I honestly don't think it's super important. SO would want it everyday if we could.

We used to have sex twice a day before I got pregnant with our oldest.

Quoting Dan[yell] (15 weeks):" This! Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:" The two ladies that have sex 2-3 times a week...how long have you been with your SO/DH?" We've been together for almost 10 years. Married for 3 years in Jan."

I've been with SO going on 5 years...

Quoting XDaniGirl:" We are lucky if we have it once a week... We used to have sex 4-5 times a week and some times more than once a day. But I have almost no sex drive what so ever anymore.... "

We're lucky if we have sex once a month.   I'm a SAHM and the job DH is at now, he only works 4 days a week for about 7-8 hours...so we have time, technically....I've just came to the conclusion that my marriage is somewhat going downhill.  

I voted 9 out of 10. I just asked dh & he said 10 out of 10.

Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" It's important, maybe 5-6, but definitely not the most important. We are okay with like 2 times a month ... [snip!] ... I want it more and I get bummed but I'm not that upset. I love my husband for A LOT more than his penis. That's an added bonus!"

I do agree with that. It's just like DH makes it seem like it's a chore or something and that's with us doing it once a month. I don't think it's the most important thing, but I feel like I think it is more important than DH does. When we first got together, we had sex at least once a day. Then it went to 2-3 times a week...every other week....and now here we are.   We've been together almost 5 years, married for 2.5 years.

Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" It's important, maybe 5-6, but definitely not the most important. We are okay with like 2 times a month ... [snip!] ... I want it more and I get bummed but I'm not that upset. I love my husband for A LOT more than his penis. That's an added bonus!"

This.

<blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" It's important, maybe 5-6, but definitely not the most important. We are okay with like 2 times a month ... [snip!] ... I want it more and I get bummed but I'm not that upset. I love my husband for A LOT more than his penis. That's an added bonus!"</blockquote>

I agree and I actually think that twice a week is normal for us. My husband works a lot and by the time we get to bed we are exhausted we usually cuddle and talk. I think sex is important but other things like communication, and connecting on other levels are more important. Don't get me wrong the Dick is great, tho;)

Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:" The two ladies that have sex 2-3 times a week...how long have you been with your SO/DH?"

4 years

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:</b>" We're lucky if we have sex once a month.   I'm a SAHM and the job DH is at now, he only works 4 ... [snip!] ... 7-8 hours...so we have time, technically....I've just came to the conclusion that my marriage is somewhat going downhill.  "</blockquote>


It really depends on your own perspective of sex. I wouldn't say that would be a reason why my relationship would be going down hill... But are there other things that make you think things are going bad? Specific problems, etc?

How long have you been married?

I'm sorry you're feeling that way. I think everyone gets to certain points like that in their relationships & it's horrible to feel out of control and not know where you stand.