Co dependency.

How do you break yourself of being co dependent?

I have horrid co dependency issues, I'd rather be treated poorly, cheated on, left bruised bloody and broken then be alone. I don't feel worthy if I am not with someone. I define myself as someone's, someone.

I don't know what makes me happy, I don't know who I am anymore. I need counseling, I know this. I need to stop running to people to make me happy. I need to learn to MAKE MYSELF happy, I need to stop making my relationships more important to me than I am to me.... I am nobody to myself, unless I am with someone else.

I've been like this since my first boyfriend ever. Idk what is wrong with my mind...

Does anyone have any advice? Ideas?

I have the same issue.

Quoting Penises 3:Vaginas 1:" How do you break yourself of being co dependent? I have horrid co dependency issues, I'd rather be ... [snip!] ... I've been like this since my first boyfriend ever. Idk what is wrong with my mind... Does anyone have any advice? Ideas?"

I could of typed every single line in there.
But I'm also very independent as well, so it's kinda like co-dependency bipolar.

Is it the companionship that you crave or is it more like you want someone to take care of you? Or is it something else?

Quoting Tiffany [20weeks]:" I have the same issue."

I'm going through a divorce, and I literally feel worthless and depressed.

What I can say that helped me was starting nursing school. I actually feel like I'm good at something, I'm not just a single lonely loser.

Quoting ♥supermommy:" What I can say that helped me was starting nursing school. I actually feel like I'm good at something, I'm not just a single lonely loser."

And when I get to the point of missing bd I will call and BEG. He doesn't deserve that what-so-ever and I KNOW that, I just NEED to know I'm still attractive to him, I'm still loveable

Quoting SpaceCowgirl:" Is it the companionship that you crave or is it more like you want someone to take care of you? Or is it something else?"

It's everything. I want someone to stay with me for the rest of my life, I want the fairy tale, I want someone who will love me and want me. I have horrid self image and feel like I'm not worth someones times. I crave the feeling of being wanted/needed/loved.

That was a ramble.. I'm sorry.

Quoting ♥supermommy:" And when I get to the point of missing bd I will call and BEG. He doesn't deserve that what-so-ever and I KNOW that, I just NEED to know I'm still attractive to him, I'm still loveable"

I'm like this is my soon to be ex. I allow him to lead me on, because I practically BEG him to pay attention to me, and lead me on. It hurts 100x more. I will start a fight with him JUST so he will TALK to me.

Quoting Penises 3:Vaginas 1:" I'm like this is my soon to be ex. I allow him to lead me on, because I practically BEG him to pay ... [snip!] ... BEG him to pay attention to me, and lead me on. It hurts 100x more. I will start a fight with him JUST so he will TALK to me. "

Yes me too!
I really want to call him right now actually. I just think about how much of an smurf he is and that usually helps. It's kinda like an addiction. It blinds you from using analytical thinking.

Quoting Penises 3:Vaginas 1:" I'm like this is my soon to be ex. I allow him to lead me on, because I practically BEG him to pay ... [snip!] ... BEG him to pay attention to me, and lead me on. It hurts 100x more. I will start a fight with him JUST so he will TALK to me. "

Do you actually ask for him back?

Quoting ♥supermommy:" Yes me too! I really want to call him right now actually. I just think about how much of an smurf ... [snip!] ... much of an smurf he is and that usually helps. It's kinda like an addiction. It blinds you from using analytical thinking. "

Exactly. I will stay things that I don't mean, just to get him to yell back at me, so I can have the back and forth and feel like he cares. And it's a smurffy life to lead.

Quoting ♥supermommy:" Do you actually ask for him back? "

I do. I beg him, I bawl, there is NOTHING that is off limits.. I will do ANYTHING to make him see how much I want him back. Its degrading.

Quoting Penises 3:Vaginas 1:" I do. I beg him, I bawl, there is NOTHING that is off limits.. I will do ANYTHING to make him see how much I want him back. Its degrading. "

:/ It's crazy that we have such similar situations!
Like I will sit on the floor and cry, among other things. Afterwards I'm so embarrassed and feel so low. Lower than him.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Penises 3:Vaginas 1:</b>" I do. I beg him, I bawl, there is NOTHING that is off limits.. I will do ANYTHING to make him see how much I want him back. Its degrading. "</blockquote>




Every single thing you've mentioned I do with BD..we split in June and were still doing this..Idk what it is I just need to know part of him still loves and wants me.. I need the hope that we might work it out someday. Idk, but I hate it and i wish I could just not do it and not care, I wish he wouldn't allow me to do this.