re: Co dependency.

Quoting ♥supermommy:" :/ It's crazy that we have such similar situations! Like I will sit on the floor and cry, among other things. Afterwards I'm so embarrassed and feel so low. Lower than him."

Same with you, afterwards I feel so stupid, and so low.. Like I hate myself for doing it. But it's like I snap and say things. Like really.. smurffy things..

Quoting TaliaKristine♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Penises 3:Vaginas 1:</b>" I do. I beg him, I bawl, there ... [snip!] ... work it out someday. Idk, but I hate it and i wish I could just not do it and not care, I wish he wouldn't allow me to do this."

I told my husband yesterday I wish I could look at him and hate him, but I just love him so much, I can't hate him.  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Penises 3:Vaginas 1:</b>" I told my husband yesterday I wish I could look at him and hate him, but I just love him so much, I can't hate him.  "</blockquote>




I know exactly what you mean.. I wish I could help but here I am six months after our split still doing the same smurf hoping for different results, and I have no one to blame but myself at this point

Quoting TaliaKristine♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Penises 3:Vaginas 1:</b>" I told my husband yesterday I wish ... [snip!] ... after our split still doing the same smurf hoping for different results, and I have no one to blame but myself at this point"

That's how I feel now. I just wish, we would have been on the same page.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Penises 3:Vaginas 1:</b>" That's how I feel now. I just wish, we would have been on the same page. "</blockquote>



Yep..I was actually talking to him about it today how I just wish we were on the same page and had the same feelings.. He just shuts down his feelings and its not fair because i know he loves me, and i know hes not ready to completely lose me either..I just want him to love and miss me and hang on my every damn word like I do with him, lol I feel like it makes no sense how I can feel this way

All you can do is be by yourself and give yourself some time. Maybe do something for yourself to help boost your confidence and make you feel stronger. Go to school for something you always wanted to. Get a job, or if you have one a better job. You need to be strong. For yourself and for you boys. They need you to be Mommy and be strong. I have been there sweetheart. You can get through this. Trust me. It isn't easy, but I am a much better person and especially a better mommy for it. I am strong enough now to show my daughter how a woman should be and what she should expect of herself and of how a man should treat her and how she should conduct herself with a man. And I can show my boys the kind of woman they should want. One that can take care of herself and her family. You can do it sweetheart.

Quoting ~Mrs. Nichols~:" All you can do is be by yourself and give yourself some time. Maybe do something for yourself to help ... [snip!] ... show my boys the kind of woman they should want. One that can take care of herself and her family. You can do it sweetheart."

Thank you. <3

Quoting Penises 3:Vaginas 1:" Thank you. <3"

<3 You are welcome <3 I have faith in you hon.

Quoting ~Mrs. Nichols~:" All you can do is be by yourself and give yourself some time. Maybe do something for yourself to help ... [snip!] ... show my boys the kind of woman they should want. One that can take care of herself and her family. You can do it sweetheart."

. Did you go through the similar things too?

Quoting ♥supermommy:" . Did you go through the similar things too?"

Very much so. And so has my mom.

Quoting ~Mrs. Nichols~:" Very much so. And so has my mom."

Its weird because my dad was and is still very codependent on my mom.

Quoting ♥supermommy:" Its weird because my dad was and is still very codependent on my mom."

It is a hard thing to break and it is very easy to fall back into it.

Quoting ~Mrs. Nichols~:" It is a hard thing to break and it is very easy to fall back into it."

Yes they are currently together, this yearly interval.
But they break up quite often and I just wish both of them would find someone else and be happy. I guess that's part of my problem. I have never seen either of my parents in loving relationships with anyone else (My mom got a few boyfriends when I was older, but you could tell they werent serious and I'm very close with my dad fortunetly so I never got attached to any of them,) BUT my dad NEVER got with another woman, loves my mom so much, wants to fix her, help her, he's the male version of me :/ Or I should say I'm the female version of him.

Quoting ♥supermommy:" Yes they are currently together, this yearly interval. But they break up quite often and I just wish ... [snip!] ... my mom so much, wants to fix her, help her, he's the male version of me :/ Or I should say I'm the female version of him. "

Yea that can happen. Luckily I found my husband after I took care of myself. So my children do see a loving relationship. My husband knows how I used to be and still loves me and helps me everyday to stay independent and not fall into my old ways. But it is a daily struggle.