Vent and rant*

It literally drives me smu*rfing crazy that my parents and DH don't get along. I mean they don't seem to have as big as an issue with him as he does with them. I'm tired of listening to him rant on and on about how much they (in his eyes) "baby me" and guilt trip me because we're moving far away from them. I mean I get somewhat of where he is coming from, they do need to be supportive and not make me feel like I can't live without them right next to me. At the same time he needs to respect the fact that they are my parents and smurf gets old when he bad mouths them allllll the time like they're stuck up my ass and I'm irresponsible because of it.

I'm sure this happens in a lot of relationships, but they've helped us both out so much and he's just too stubborn to see it.

Like, I don't give a smu*rf how mad you are don't come to me and say that it's hard to be with me because of my parents..
Especially since they live 14hrs away...

We just view things differently..I like to talk to my mom every other day and my DH thinks that's too much and that's me not being an adult. 1 time a week or every 2 weeks is more realistic in his eyes because when the tables were turned that's how much he spoke with his parents. I just have a closer relationship with mine, I suppose. Some people don't have a relationship at all with their mothers so I think I'm lucky.

Either way..I'm done my ranting and raving..feels better to get It out and find others who can relate.

I text with my mom every day and try to call as much as I can. I'm really close with her (and my sisters- all of my family, really). I live halfway across the country from her, and I like to let her know what is going on in my life, and what is new with my son. I think it's important to have that kind of relationship, and I really hope my kids have the same kind of relationship with me when they are grown.
Luckily DH is a mommy's boy lol so he understands. He does sometimes think that I want to visit them too much, but that's mainly a money issue.
Guess we're irresponsible too..

We used to live only 15 mins. Away so my mom and I would often get together and go shopping and what not. I never viewed it as something "irresponsible". My moms really the only one that would hang out with me and I was guaranteed to not get blown off haha. I had zero mommy friends so the friends I had before Mason found me less interesting after him, so I got myself out of the house by going out with my mom. He felt like she tried too hard to be my friend and not my mom.

I wish I lived closer to my mom so that I could hang out with her. I know exactly what you mean. I have no mommy friends lol. Not here at least.
I could understand what he's saying if you were younger, but you're an adult now. She doesn't have to "parent" you anymore, really.

I at least text my mum every day because its a bit of a pain to get to her in this weather with DS. She calls me about once a week, sometimes twice or three times when there's something going on. SO's relationship with his mother just annoys me. I could deal with the fact that we moved 5 minutes up the road from her if it weren't for the fact that she always asks us for dinner and when she doesn't, SO asks her what she's doing! She's slightly neurotic when it comes to SO in my opinion. She just has to be all up in his business and then if he doesn't answer his phone she freaks out and calls mine. If I don't answer she just drops in because, like I said, it's 5 minutes up the road.

I am the baby from my parents and I have a very close relationship with them and they are very close to my kids, but we will be moving 1800 miles away in april and ya my parents are devastated over it, but they know its what's best for my family and as long as I'm happy, they're happy. Your SO needs to get over himself, those are your parents and you should be able to keep that close relationship with them even being miles away, if my husband was that way I would tell him to smurf himself and I would call or text anyways, but I got lucky he loves my parents and they love him.

Yeah, last night I pretty much just told him to get over it. My mom is nosy and tries to put in her 2 cents in our relationship and he strongly dislikes her for that. She says she's just trying help me. She does baby me & did guilt trip me when I said I was moving and when we did live close by she would tell me where I can't take my son ( for example didn't want me taking him to hang with my birth father because she doesn't like him) ...but regardless she's my mother and I do tell her to stop because it annoys me and causes me issues.
I hate the feeling of being put in the middle

I went through with it with my exmy parents are the same way. it can get emotionally stressful too, I actually almost lost my whole family because of my ex and nobody liked him, my mom eventually told me I had to choose and I picked her because it made me realize how controlling he was, the way she got me to leave him was introducing me to my husband

Glad it worked out for you. I hope she would never make me chose. I wouldn't say the situation is THAT bad. My DH just makes them seem far more worse than what they actually are.