Sister and sister in law

So my sister stayed over my house on thanksgiving and when she left she left her Facebook messages open with my sister in law.. All they do is talk crap about me.. i don't even know why i don't even see them that much. i live far from them.. but they kept going on and on about how selfish i am and self centered and all i do is seclude myself.. ive been ttc for a year now and then they were talking about how i prolly wont ever get pregnant etc etc ( there both pregnant and it came easy to both of them) I don't know if i should confront them or what.. I don't have many people in my life but at least i thought i had my family...I don't even want to go to Christmas over there who knows who else is doing this too..

Aw I'm sorry. That's smurfed. I'd definitely say something. To your own sister at least.

you should let her know she left her messages on facebook open and u saw everything!!

If I were you I would have responded with an additional message. Simply stating that you have read the messages and sorry that they feel this way and the pregnancy comments are very hurtful. This way there is no denying and they'll know that you know without it having to be an ugly confrontation. If I were you I would distance myself from an ungrateful sister that would disrespect you so greatly after you were kind enough to open your home to her.

Quoting Ryloonjimama:" Aw I'm sorry. That's smurfed. I'd definitely say something. To your own sister at least."

Definitely.

damn, that's smurfed up i would confront the both of them together.. I know my Sil's talk smurf about me but i dont have the proof..

Neither one of them should be talking about you behind your back. I would talk to both of them.

My sister is like my best friend and i don't even know what i did for those comments ive always done ANYTHING for her.. So i don't know how im selfish or self centered the only thing i talk about is my son... Im scared to say something cuz i dont want to start a big fight..

I would just leave it be. If that is their opinions, then you really can't change it. Bringing it up would just start an argument and have them accuse you of snooping. And if they want to be two faced about stuff, well that's their problem. My GIL is the same way and I just bite my tongue around her and be nice. I would rather be the mature one and the bigger person than let what she thinks bother me too much. I may not like it, or be too thrilled about what she says to who about me, but nothing I can do about it so I just leave it alone and play nice.

Quoting Kelly13086:" My sister is like my best friend and i don't even know what i did for those comments ive always done ... [snip!] ... or self centered the only thing i talk about is my son... Im scared to say something cuz i dont want to start a big fight.."

It's jealousy..

Quoting Kelly13086:" My sister is like my best friend and i don't even know what i did for those comments ive always done ... [snip!] ... or self centered the only thing i talk about is my son... Im scared to say something cuz i dont want to start a big fight.."

You don't need to start a fight. Just say, "I wanted to talk to you about, when you were here on Thanksgiving, you left your messages up. I don't want to fight about this, I was just really hurt by what I saw because I thought we were close and I really care about what you think. Is there something that I have done to make you feel that way?" etc. etc. Just spin it back onto her to make her feel like a POS. lol.

Quoting Kelly13086:" My sister is like my best friend and i don't even know what i did for those comments ive always done ... [snip!] ... or self centered the only thing i talk about is my son... Im scared to say something cuz i dont want to start a big fight.."

Someone that talks about you like that and says hurtful things about pregnancy is not any type of friend, much less "like a best friend". I would definitely say something. If anything SHE started a big fight. You just should just respond and not be the door mat that allows her to walk all over you.

I wouldn't say anything. Kill them with kindness. Don't feel uncomfortable about being around them during holidays, go and have a good time with the rest of your family.