fiance's family (Rant!)

ok so my fiance and i are currently staying at his grandmother's house with her we've been here i think since august... and im getting really tired of her attitude with me about everything... there isnt a day that goes by without her telling me about something thats wrong. mostly she complains about other people but all day today she's just had a serious bad attitude about everything like i made an egg sandwhich for myself (after asking her if she wanted one too but she declined) and when i sat down she raised her voice and with serious discust in her tone she asked me what i was doing when i was just rinsing out the pan i used (gee sorry, thought i was helping) and then she went to lay down for a nap so went to take a shower and when i got out i went to the living room and she came out and i asked her if she just couldnt sleep and once again she practically yelled at me she was like "well how can you sleep in this house?! either there's people knocking on the door or the bathroom is about to run over!" ok we had a situation yesterday where people came and knocked on the door looking for my fiance yesterday so thats where that came from and seriously? she was mad at me cause i took a shower?!?! wtf?! i feel like im walking on glass with her... and she/s always commenting to me about how i dont do enough and i need to learn how to cook more and then to add icing on the cake her daughter is pregnant too which is definitely a miracle cause she has been trying for the past 15 years. dont get me wrong im super super happy for her but at the same time she's not due till i think april or march. im about to have my baby and i feel like his grandma doesnt give two smurfs about our baby since her daugher is having one. like i hear her all the time talk about "she just had ultrasound!" "im going to her doctors appointment with her!" which i understand her excitment i really do i just think its smurffy to treat me like im nothing. especially when whenever i say anything about landyn kicking or anything thats going on with my pregnancy she has to bring up something about her daughter's pregnancy its almost like she's trying to one up me or something. so theres that then also yesterday she was on the phone with her daugher in law and they were planning the family christmas party and she made it for on my birthday! (the 16th) i dont know how i should feel about it.. like i already feel like im being pushed to the back burner and then i get the last day thats supposed to be about me and now i have to change any plans i had so we can do the christmas party.... happy birthday me! ughh does this whole thing make me a bitch or is it hormones or should i legit be upset? i just cant tell anymore... ugh im just so frustrated... sorry this rant is so long i just needed to get it off my chest...

So let me get this straight... you are staying in her home with your fiance while you are pregnant?
How ungrateful can you be? No you shouldn't be upset and no you shouldn't be complaining about anything.

Don't like it? Get your own place

i'm not ungrateful at all.. and i would love to get my own place but i have no money to do so... but thank you for your opinion

I understand where you're coming from. I think it's wise that you come on here and complain instead of complaining to your SO'a grandma. Just try and not let it get you down hun. People just don't think about other's feelings sometimes. I hope you have plans to move out on your own in the near future so you can be happier!

It's hormones don't worry. She is probably just sharing about her daughter when you talk about your pregnancy because its her way of keeping the conversation going. My sister and I had our babies three days apart. So anytime one of us told our mom something she told us all about the other one. Which is fine cause we're also best friends. Your birthday being the same day as the Christmas party is probably only because its the one day everyone had available. Celebrate your birthday the way you want the day before or the day after.

I know how you feel. Me and SO live with his parents but we pay rent, buy groceries and I keep all the common areas clean and cook supper every night to help out because im not working. SOs dad is horrible! He isnt shy about telling me everything I do is wrong. He has never said "Thanks for supper" its more along the lines of "Wow we are having spaghetti again..." or "These pork chops are over cooked I should have just brought home a F***ing pizza" The best is when I spend the day in town at appointments and shopping and SOs brother (the messiest person I have EVER met) makes a huge mess in the kitchen. SOs dad gets home and starts freaking out about the kitchen even though I have barely been home for 20 minutes and then asks me "What have you been doing all day????" He acts like its my job to clean up after everyone even though no other renter would ever do that when they pay rent and buy groceries. Then he has the nerve to say "You need to get a job. Carrie (SOs mom) worked until she was 8 months pregnant!!" I just wanted to sanp and ask who would clean up after everyone and cook if I got a job cause I sure as hell wouldnt... Anyways I fell your pain.

I don't think you're over reacting at all. I would talk to SO about it and see what he says however be careful how you say things you don't want them to come out wrong. I wouldn't talk to the grandmother unless SO says to. I think it's a little hormonal but just because someone lets you live in their house doesn't mean they have to be rude. I know it's her house and all but there's no reason for her to be nasty with you unless she just doesn't want you there. If I were you I wouldn't let it bother me and maybe you will feel better talking to SO. As far as celebrating your birthday do it on another day I don't think she did that on purpose but then again you never know..lol

i agree, you do have a right to be upset with the situation. it just sucks cause it isn't your house. i've got a few problems with living with my bf and his family. not everyone doing their part to keep the house clean and im constantly cleaning up after everyone, if i buy food it gets left open to go bad or gets eaten before i can even get to it, hell his dad was even retarded and let off a smurfin roach bomb while we were all in the house. but despite being EXTRA hormonal and wanting to punch someone (and its reallly difficult) im trying to keep my composure. I'm not sure what talking to anyone there would do, some people want things the way they want it and wont take no for an answer if its their home. i do wish you the best of luck and hope you guys can get your own place asap.