Quoting Jude the Super Kinkster:" <blockquote><b>Quoting J+D=4:</b>" I am a spanker.. and I would have spanked her then. ... [snip!] ... to make you spank, kwim?"</blockquote> If you insist.on spanking you're suppose to wait until you're calm to do it."
I don't go crazy and beat my kids, but I do it in the moment because their actions should have immediate consequences. otherwise, time goes by and to them, they are just being punished for nothing.. that's how I see it anyway. OP, I don't think you did anything wrong, really. She did something unacceptable, and you swatted her. you didn't beat her, you got her attention, and talked to her about what she did and explained it.