Am I being ridiculous?

So I had voiced my concern that I didn'tt think it was a smart idea for dh to go fishing until after baby because really I could go into labor any day. This isn't just fishing at a lake nearby this is driving for an hour, then going an our or more out on the ocean. So there's a chance he will not have signal or anything and I was depending on him to drive me to the hospital if I go into labor.

Well he's like well me and my dad will have our cell phones, and just call and I'll come get you. Ugh hello do you really think Im going to wait 3 hours for you to take me to the hospital. NO. That and Im sure they won't answer the phone because I've tried calling him on these fishing trips before and didnt hear from him until about 4 hours later. He leaves at 5 a.m. and usually doesn't get home until 6-9 p.m.

So I told him I will not be calling him over and over if I were to go into labor. I will call him once. If there's no answer he'll just have to find out from someone else that I'm at the hospital. I know im probably being a bitch but Im so over him having to go play every single weekend and putting his daddy before his own family.

I'd be upset too. I'd tell him not to be upset if he misses anything. Lol. I think his baby should come before anything.

Nope, I'd be pissed too.   so is he still going?

Quoting That Girl.:" So I had voiced my concern that I didn'tt think it was a smart idea for dh to go fishing until after ... [snip!] ... probably being a bitch but Im so over him having to go play every single weekend and putting his daddy before his own family."

When was he planning on going?

it looks like you have a bit of time at this point and if he planned it this weekend, rather than later in the month, I don't think that would be too close.

I'd do the same thing. I'd be like screw it f you miss your child's birth because u put fishing first then whatever. I'll find someone else to take me an cut the baby's cord.

You're not being ridiculous at all; when I was pregnant DH wanted to go to his friends bachelors party in Nashville (about 80 miles away.) I didn't want him to go AT ALL, but finally I gave in. I got all of the guys numbers that were going, and if I went into labor I was going to call them and let them know, then have MIL take me. Luckily I didn't go into labor.

<blockquote><b>Quoting That Girl.:</b>" So I had voiced my concern that I didn'tt think it was a smart idea for dh to go fishing until after ... [snip!] ... probably being a bitch but Im so over him having to go play every single weekend and putting his daddy before his own family."</blockquote>




I get the frustration. You usually have plenty of time to get to the hospital before LO comes.. even if he doesn't answer. There's enough time to figure out another way like you said. Don't stress about it. You have a little while still.

I think you are being ridiculous.

I would be mad as hell. You are about to pop he should bev there as much as he can. I would have thrown all his fishing stuff away if that was my hubby.

If my husband did that, he would have missed my sons birth, as my labor from start to finish was about an hour.


That is pretty irresponsible of him. Why can't he wait and go fishing as a celebratory thing with the guys after the baby is here?

I get the frustration but realistically you will have PLENTY of time to get to the hospital once you are first in labor and a 3 hour wait isnt the end of the world. Heck, my labors were 28 and 33 hours. When I was in labor with my first my husband went to get his mom at the airport and take her out to dinner-he was gone for a good 5-6 hours. That is another story because she didnt know I was in labor but whatever. Just saying that yes it is annoying but 3 hours wont make much of a difference.

ETA: I do understand some people have short labors, but that isnt the majority.

Maybe ask him to cut his trip a little short this time around??? ...compromise...dont stress yourself out about a fishing trip, if he wants to risk that, its his deal....

He just called and said he was going. I voiced my concern but I'm obviously not going to say he can't go.

I'm not furious just annoyed witht he fact that he simply thinks that his every weekend adventures are more important then me and his current child.

And he thinks that for some reason I will only go into labor At night like its predictable or something.

Quoting pilot Jess:" If my husband did that, he would have missed my sons birth, as my labor from start to finish was about ... [snip!] ... is pretty irresponsible of him. Why can't he wait and go fishing as a celebratory thing with the guys after the baby is here?"

Right, I think some people seem to forget others don't always have long labors etc.

Quoting Syndal:" I'd be upset too. I'd tell him not to be upset if he misses anything. Lol. I think his baby should come before anything."

Exactly this!!!!