sister rant

so i am 21 and pregnant with my first child..I have a much older sister(35) and she is married with a beautiful almost 6 year old daughter and just graduated college with her degree in nuclear science..now with that being said, when i called her and told her i was pregnant it was like emotionally all hell had just broke loose..long story short she wanted me to kill my fetus..she did not want me to have a baby..now here it is 6 months down the line i never get a phone call text r anything to even ask me how everything is going..so far i have had a few complications and all that..now on black friday we find out that she is 9 weeks pregnant..i am happy for her she deserves another child considering out of 3 pregnancies only 1 was successfull..but something inside me can't help but feel as though she kind of stole my thunder just a little bit..with her being her age and having 2 m/c's i know that everything is gonna be all about her now and its gonna be like oh who cares about my baby ya know? there isn't one day that goes by that my mom won't bring her up in conversation sayin how proud she is of her and blah blah blah..i just feel like im not even important anymore which sucks..i can't believe my own sister can't even take time out of her day to ask me how her niece is doing..at this point I'm not even sure i want her around my daughter..not that she would be a whole lot anyway because she lives an hour away..idk i guess im just frustrated and being so hormonal my feelings are hurt..ugh this sucks..end rant

that's messed up that she wanted you to do that.

<blockquote><b>Quoting |♥| Jayme |♥|:</b>" that's messed up that she wanted you to do that."</blockquote>




i thought so too..it crushed me when she said that..i immediately burst into tears

I think you are over reacting a little. Not about her wanting you to have an abortion. But about the not wanting her to be around your child and thinking she's stealing your thunder. There's a few month difference so your LO will get all the attention for awhile.

Quoting Ashley Zernell:" <blockquote><b>Quoting |♥| Jayme |♥|:</b>" that's messed up that she wanted ... [snip!] ... you to do that."</blockquote> i thought so too..it crushed me when she said that..i immediately burst into tears"

i am sorry that happen to you, but i am happy you didn't do that! Just remember whatever happen you will have a beautiful baby!

Do you have a job? have you finished school? do ever thing she told you to abort so you could further yourself in life? and boohoo dont whine about someone stealing youre thunder shes allowed to get pregnant too

<blockquote><b>Quoting |♥| Jayme |♥|:</b>" i am sorry that happen to you, but i am happy you didn't do that! Just remember whatever happen you will have a beautiful baby!"</blockquote>




thank you, never in a million years would i have an abortion..i understand for.some it is the best decision but im totally against it..it just sucks when your own flesh and blood would suggest something like that to yu, especially when they have had so many issues conceiving and actually having a full term pregnancy

Quoting Ashley Zernell:" <blockquote><b>Quoting |♥| Jayme |♥|:</b>" i am sorry that happen to you, ... [snip!] ... something like that to yu, especially when they have had so many issues conceiving and actually having a full term pregnancy"

i totally understand and you are very welcome!

<blockquote><b>Quoting 1st1ontheway:</b>" I think you are over reacting a little. Not about her wanting you to have an abortion. But about the ... [snip!] ... and thinking she's stealing your thunder. There's a few month difference so your LO will get all the attention for awhile."</blockquote>
I don't feel as though it is really over reacting because at the end of the day I don't want someone around smiling in my daughter's face who in all reality wanted me to abort her

I think when she suggested the abortion she was doing it with your best interests in mind. She is a mother has the experience and for whatever reason she probably thought it wasn't the right time for you. People get that wrong all the time. Trust me. My best friend and I fought alot when I got pregnant because he thought I should get an abortion and go to college. Needless to say he died a few months later and in the end no matter how hurt I was that he suggested it I am more hurt he is gone. Try your best to forget she said it. Your baby will come either way so try to move on from that. I'm sure she has come around, even if she doesn't take the time to show it. As far as her stealing your thunder, its not even a competition. As soon as your baby is born she will suck all the attention!   don't worry too much. Just try to stay positive and kill her with kindness. Wish her well and enjoy your pregnancy.

<blockquote><b>Quoting º×ß¡±©µ×º:</b>" Do you have a job? have you finished school? do ever thing she told you to abort so you could further ... [snip!] ... you could further yourself in life? and boohoo dont whine about someone stealing youre thunder shes allowed to get pregnant too"</blockquote>




no I haven't finished school but have every intention on going back..as far as a job yes i work full time, overnight busting my ass to support myself..I have my own apartment and i pay my own bills..I may struggle from time to time but hell I'm 21 and doing things on my own..that's better than most at my age and some even older

Ugh sisters! Can't live with em, can't live without em!

I met my 10 week old nephew on Sunday.... After walking out of a supermarket! My sister lives 20 minutes from me and can drive but she chooses not to see us because she refuses to acknowledge the fact that her fiance is an abusive, manipulative smurf. We didn't even see her the whole time she was pregnant and now all of the gifts we got her have gone to waste. Sisters! Ha! What does it even mean?!



The moral is that sisters can be bitches. It's your job to be the better person and rise above it. You're a good person and you know she's also a good person under her bitchy exterior. One day she'll realise that she's made a mistake and return like nothing happened. It's happened with mine about 4 times since this guy showed up  

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Mary Moon*:</b>" I think when she suggested the abortion she was doing it with your best interests in mind. She is a mother ... [snip!] ...   don't worry too much. Just try to stay positive and kill her with kindness. Wish her well and enjoy your pregnancy."</blockquote>




oh I def do wish her the best 100%..i never wanna see my sister go through another heart break of having a 3rd miscarriage

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bettinas:</b>" Ugh sisters! Can't live with em, can't live without em! I met my 10 week old nephew on Sunday.... After ... [snip!] ... that she's made a mistake and return like nothing happened. It's happened with mine about 4 times since this guy showed up  "</blockquote>



exactly..my life is not perfect hell hers isn't either..me and my SO go through our problems but her husband used to hit her, be on drugs he threw her out in the rain by her neck while she was pregnant with my niece..hit her while holding my niece the day she came home from the hospital after having her c section..even threw her and my infant niece out in the middle of the nighy and wouldnt let my sister have anything for my niece so my mom had to drive an hour each way to pick her up and go buy all new stuff for my niece..so yeah I'm young but how stable was your life when yu were pregnant with my niece to suggest i have an abortion

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ashley Zernell:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting 1st1ontheway:</b>" I think you are over reacting a little. Not ... [snip!] ... at the end of the day I don't want someone around smiling in my daughter's face who in all reality wanted me to abort her"</blockquote>




It was a suggestion. She wasn't demanding you do it. People suggest abortion to a lot of people. She was just telling you your options. So yes I think you are over reacting.