Upset

My son has been going to his daycare/sitter for almost four months now. He has loved it, and has even begged to go on days when he doesn't have to. But these past few weeks, he cries when I take him there, and says he'd rather stay home with me. Then he told me that she (the sitter) told him that she doesn't like them. Then the other day he got upset and told me that she calls him 'Stinky Boy' and gets mad at him and says she doesn't love him. She also told me that she was going to stop taking him come January because she wasn't making enough money off of me (see previous post if you want). So I just haven't been taking him there. It makes him miserable, he says she's being mean (there have been zero signs of physical abuse, and the sitter he accuses these things of usually isn't there--her mom is the one who typically watches my son), so I just haven't taken him, and have been utilizing family/friends.

This past week he has pooped his pants like 5-6 times. I don't understand because he was officially potty trained by the beginning of August, and other than wetting the bed a couple of times (usually because I forgot to remind him to potty before bedtime), he has had absolutely NO accidents. It's not a lot of crap, but it's enough that he stinks and I have to clean his butt, and change his pants. Almost like he's farting with enthusiasm (haha). I thought maybe he was just having tummy troubles, but tonight he told me that it's because *** (the sitter I mentioned earlier) "lets him". I asked what he meant and he said she told him he just has to poop in his pants.

I don't know what to think. Maybe he's fibbing or exaggerating (I'd like to think not), or maybe she's just a snot to him. I've known her for a few years, and I can't exactly imagine her acting that way, however I don't know her closely and people do weird things behind closed doors (my niece used to have the nicest Mormon babysitter, super sweet woman--who beat her so bad one day that there were marks all over, so I'm super paranoid now). Either way, he's not going back, but it's just so upsetting to think he may have been bullied.

Most likely something is going on, that is a pretty big change and usually it doesnt happen out of the blue.

The kids I watch are so comfortable with me, I was at the 5yr olds bday party yesterday and her baby sister (15 months) asked me to pick her up and just laid down on me while big sister was opening her presents. I couldnt imagine being mean to them, if something happens where I need to discipline them we sit and talk about it after the initial time out and we talk to mom or dad together when they get picked up so there is no misrepresentation about what happened.

You never know, I had a Headstart teacher tell me everyday that my son was misbehaving until another parent told me the truth. My son kept looking at me and saying "but momma I wasnt bad at school today, I was good." I corrected him for no reason over the word of an adult. Trust your instincts, I wish I had trusted mine!

Yeah.. something strange in going on. Sounds like something she has said has affected him emotionally. I WOULD NOT send him back! Find someone else who would love him like you do. Your son may have loved going to her before, but he is hurting now and should feel loved not neglect.