Quoting Bettinas:" I don't know how I feel on this subject.... It seems odd to me that some people invest themselves and ... [snip!] ... out you are pregnant and then suddenly get your period... But really, isn't that just our own fault for being POAS fiends? "
I meant to address something else in your post.
Also as far as I know, I never had a loss before my boys. Maybe I did. Idk. Either way, I have experienced all six of my losses since I had my boys. Both boys were conceived naturally (no fertility meds, etc) and fair quickly/easily. I had no issues during my pregnancies or during labor and delivery. So after such easy pregnancies and then three losses, I had testing. Just about every test you can have done. They still have not been able to find the exact reason for all my losses. They can only assume what caused them.
So even after no explainations, I wasn't ready to give up. We wanted another child. We didn't want our losses to be in vain. We kept faith and prayed for a miracle. So far, after 6 losses, we have our miracle. I am nearly 15 weeks pregnant. A blessing that I never thought I would experience again. Why? Because I didn't give up.
Pushing and fighting through your fear and emotions can be hard. It isn't for everyone. It doesn't mean that someone else should question someone that choose to continue ttc.