I want to have a birthday party fod LO and only invite my side and our friends. I'm afraid if I do, DH's parents will be mad. So I was thinking of either just not doing it (original plan) or doing it but telling them we need help with costs if they want their families invited. Thoughts? I don't want to,be a bitch but my wedsing guest list was out of control because of MIL.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jude the Super Kinkster:</b>" I want to have a birthday party fod LO and only invite my side and our friends. I'm afraid if I do, DH's ... [snip!] ... want their families invited. Thoughts? I don't want to,be a bitch but my wedsing guest list was out of control because of MIL."</blockquote>




Well, that's rude. I would invite the family close to DH on his side. And your family friends. But not just exclude his half :/

I don't like either option. Invite who you want, plus your in-laws, and don't give her a say in it. If she says something about wanting to invite more people, say "sorry, we can't afford it."

To me it seems unfair to exclude half your LOs family. Why not make it a pot luck to cut down on expenses?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jude the Super Kinkster:</b>" I want to have a birthday party fod LO and only invite my side and our friends. I'm afraid if I do, DH's ... [snip!] ... want their families invited. Thoughts? I don't want to,be a bitch but my wedsing guest list was out of control because of MIL."</blockquote>



My sons bday was saturday and i didnt have the $ for the party well
I cancelled his big party at my house nd was supposed to have dinner at moms and she threw a party for jus family... tell em u cant afford it see if they offer to help

Okay.. MIL is a control freak. Best you lay down the law now or prepare for interference forever. Have a nice party (yes, I would invite them and a few of your husbands relatives - the close ones only) and if they have a problem with the guest list tell them you are trying to control costs.
I can't imagine them asking why more people weren't invited,,, that would just be rude.

Let me explain a little better. I'll imvite.my ten or so relatives and we'll have his parents and siblings plus our few friends with kids. But his side are HUGE about holding grudges so like, if we invite.one person, it turns into fifty.or everyone gets.pissed.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Momma Fergie:</b>" Okay.. MIL is a control freak. Best you lay down the law now or prepare for interference forever. Have ... [snip!] ... them you are trying to control costs. I can't imagine them asking why more people weren't invited,,, that would just be rude."</blockquote>


Believe.it because this is what will happen. I will say "Okay I'm inviting all of you plus aunt and uncle blah blah blah and thats it" and she'll say ""Oh if you.invite THEM you have.to invite x y z blah blah NJ lah"

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jude the Super Kinkster:</b>" Let me explain a little better. I'll imvite.my ten or so relatives and we'll have his parents and siblings ... [snip!] ... But his side are HUGE about holding grudges so like, if we invite.one person, it turns into fifty.or everyone gets.pissed."</blockquote>


Send out invites to his immediately family and oh well about grudges. They'll get over it. Just make sure to say RSVP only. And be tough.
OR
Ask his mom to host the party for his side if there is an issue and see what she says.

Quoting Jude the Super Kinkster:" Let me explain a little better. I'll imvite.my ten or so relatives and we'll have his parents and siblings ... [snip!] ... But his side are HUGE about holding grudges so like, if we invite.one person, it turns into fifty.or everyone gets.pissed."

So let them be mad. What's the big deal? I would invite my child's grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins, and whatever friends you want. Don't get caught up in the petty grudges.

Quoting Jude the Super Kinkster:" Let me explain a little better. I'll imvite.my ten or so relatives and we'll have his parents and siblings ... [snip!] ... But his side are HUGE about holding grudges so like, if we invite.one person, it turns into fifty.or everyone gets.pissed."

Sounds reasonable to me. Sometimes you have to draw the line in the sand and let the chips fall where they may. Your husband should be ready to back you up if he hears any flack.

<blockquote><b>Quoting -BLT-:</b>" So let them be mad. What's the big deal? I would invite my child's grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins, and whatever friends you want. Don't get caught up in the petty grudges."</blockquote>




The big deal is that they already hate me.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Momma Fergie:</b>" Sounds reasonable to me. Sometimes you have to draw the line in the sand and let the chips fall where they may. Your husband should be ready to back you up if he hears any flack."</blockquote>




I'm going to ask him tonight

Quoting Jude the Super Kinkster:" <blockquote><b>Quoting -BLT-:</b>" So let them be mad. What's the big deal? I would ... [snip!] ... friends you want. Don't get caught up in the petty grudges."</blockquote> The big deal is that they already hate me."

Well I don't think excluding your in-laws from a party would help the situation! Lol. Let your husband handle his family.

<blockquote><b>Quoting -BLT-:</b>" Well I don't think excluding your in-laws from a party would help the situation! Lol. Let your husband handle his family."</blockquote>




But if I exclude them ALL then no one can get mad right?