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posted 3rd Dec
okay, well ill start from the begining. im 18 almost 19 years old, i went to a party with my friend one night,i met a guy (made maybe a bad choice that night). but we got along PERFECT, well we exchanged numbers, and we started talking, and bout a week later we ended up dating. well, he took me to his house one night to stay the night, we had ended up having intercorse 3x that night, he didnt pull out, or wear a condom or anything, we had talked bout having a child.. i had said something bout not ever getting engaged again until i was at least 23 and his response was "thats fine, but im not saying we wont have a couple kids by then" so then we were sitting tgere, he had his son, we were all hanging out, and i said "give me a kid" with a little pouty face (jokingly..kinda) lol and he said "i think i already did". well bout 2 or 3 weeks went by and my ex CRAZY i must add. fiance put a protective order on me, saying i was "stalking him" and blah blah, well it was all bs and lies so i told my bf (guy at the party) at the time that cuz i had nothing to hide obviously. well i told him i was gonna go to court and fight it. , and he broke up with me cuz he thought i was talking to my ex and trying to get back with him. well a week or so later i had taken a test, it came out negative. so i went on my way went with my friends, and got drunk, well i was having period like pains and thought it was just my period, well that was a saturday, i hadnt had by tuesday so i took a test first thing in the morning, it was positive, went to the doc, and they confirmed it. well i caleld him and told him i was pregnant. he said he wanted to be a part of its life, so then.. bout 2 weeks went by and he was ignoring my calls, txt, everything. then he got ahold of me one night, and didnt like the smurffy reply i gave him. (uhm hello you just ignored me for 2 weeks, duh im gonna be smurffy) asked to hangout, and everything, then said his baby momma # called and he got to see him son (after PROMISING me i could see him that night) which i didnt really care, i mean thats his son. im happy hes there for him, well i told him how i felt like he was putting his ex gf (baby momma) in front of me. and i simply told him i didnt want him to make promises he cant keep for sure cuz i didnt wanna get my hopes up. well after that. he called me a week later and said "well i didnt get to see you last weekend so i figured i could see you this weekend" well he came and picked me up, took me to his house, we talked i got outta him that the reason he left me was cuz he thought i was talking to my ex fiance. well we had intercourse 2x that night. and then he took me home, was VERy sweet just like the night i met him, he even gave me a good night kiss. well then i would txt him "good mornin, hey" ect and he wouldnt reply for bout 2 weeks after, well i tried to call him, didnt answer, so then my mother thought she had to call him and tell him what she thought lol THEN he txtd me, told me were NEVER getting back together.. ect so i said "i dont care, all i care is that you step up and be a dad to your child," well then i asked him "why do you hate me so much"? he said he didnt. well then i asked why he was being so rude he said "cuz i dont wanna talk all the itme" i said "is it that you hate me or is it that your with someone" he proceeded to tell me he wasnt with anyone, then i was like well we can at least be friends for the baby, and he agreed. and then i asked "do you want me to let you know when i have appts or when i have it," his respons? "if you want" ive been stressing over this ALOT i never wanted a broken family. i never wamted to be a single parent, and i never wanted to be the girl with 2 or 3 different kids fr om 2 or 3 different dads. i also think a big part is that i feel as though noone wants a pregnant gf or a girl wit ha kid, cuz then they cant go out and party or whatever. ive been stressing cuz i dont wanna lose the baby over stress. plus i have to go to court so i know thats gonna stress me out, i may even cry a little bit. my first appt. is DEC. 13, 2012 i hace court dec 6th. also ive been drinking some mountain dew amd im having ligament like pains sometimes i dont have to do anything fo them to come on, sometimes its what i eat, drink, ect. is it normal to worry bout miscarriage as much as i am?! PLEASE HELP ME OUT!quotesmurfs?
posted 3rd Dec
So you got pregnant with a guy after you had known him for about a week?? I say that you should have been more careful, specially at your age.
Not much else to say now...he sounds like a douchebag, but who knows he might step us as a father...Sounds like you dont know him very well either yourself, so you'll just have to wait and see.
Good luck with everything.
posted 3rd Dec
I mean this in the nicest way possible, but this is why you shouldn't go planning babies with people you don't really know. There is no help any of us on BG can give you, other than a little advice. You should have been thinking, but it's obviously too late for that. You should be thinking the child you already have, before you go procreating, not knowing if you can handle it in any situation. You should never have planned a pregnancy hoping the guy was going to stay around, because things can always change. I wish you all the best, and hope you are able to make better choices in your future.quote
posted 3rd Dec
What was going through your head when you were thinking about having kids with a guy you hardly knew, when you had the desire of a wholesome family? He's probably with someone else, and only told you he wanted kids to "woo" you and to have unprotected sex with you... I get along with nearly everyone I meet when I'm trashed, but I don't think about having babies with them lol
Personally I would only contact him when I had appointments and if he didn't show, oh well. When the baby is born take him for child support. And there are guys who will date a pregnant girl or someone with kids, but that shouldn't be a concern of yours right now.
Try to enjoy your pregnancy, you'll probably worry less about miscarriage if you do.