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You've been seeing a guy for about 4 months, and he told you he didnt' know what he wanted as far as a relationship etc.. would you continue with the relationship anyway in hopes he will figure it out (if things were going good), or not talk to him until he figured it out???

Quoting *~Bunny~Hump~*:" You've been seeing a guy for about 4 months, and he told you he didnt' know what he wanted as far as ... [snip!] ... relationship anyway in hopes he will figure it out (if things were going good), or not talk to him until he figured it out??? "

Yeah I think I would.

Quoting *~Bunny~Hump~*:" You've been seeing a guy for about 4 months, and he told you he didnt' know what he wanted as far as ... [snip!] ... relationship anyway in hopes he will figure it out (if things were going good), or not talk to him until he figured it out??? "

If you're happy why end it, unless your set in marriage and kids. Just don't invest more in the relationship than he does to avoid getting crushed.

Quoting *~Bunny~Hump~*:" You've been seeing a guy for about 4 months, and he told you he didnt' know what he wanted as far as ... [snip!] ... relationship anyway in hopes he will figure it out (if things were going good), or not talk to him until he figured it out??? "

If he didn't care enough to take me off the market officially, I'd walk away until he was ready to make a commitment. none of this "oh we can see each other but I don't know if I want a "relationship"". That's just code for "i want sex but no responsibilty for your feelings"

It would really depend on his reasoning for not being sure whether or not he wanted to be in a relationship.

If you're having sex, I'd assume that he is unsure because he wants to have all the good stuff with no strings attached. If not, then maybe he wants to get to know you more. If you're happy with it not being long term, go with the flow, but if you're scared you may get very attached & there is a potential he won't, I'd stop talking to him & save yourself the heartache.

Quoting eℓℓie☮:" It would really depend on his reasoning for not being sure whether or not he wanted to be in a relationship. ... [snip!] ... you may get very attached & there is a potential he won't, I'd stop talking to him & save yourself the heartache."

You should read my previous post..

HIs reasoning is he's been through 2 divorces and blah blah.. :-(. just attached to him already. YEs we are having sex... and are ina n official relationship.. I just think he may be singling other chicks on the side..

Quoting *~Bunny~Hump~*:" You've been seeing a guy for about 4 months, and he told you he didnt' know what he wanted as far as ... [snip!] ... relationship anyway in hopes he will figure it out (if things were going good), or not talk to him until he figured it out??? "

girl from all ur posts recently why the hell are u still with this guy???? holy smurf seriously. hes not good for u period and hes not interested in a real relationship so lose him!!!!

It would depend what I wanted.

<blockquote><b>Quoting *~Bunny~Hump~*:</b>" You've been seeing a guy for about 4 months, and he told you he didnt' know what he wanted as far as ... [snip!] ... relationship anyway in hopes he will figure it out (if things were going good), or not talk to him until he figured it out??? "</blockquote>




Yep. My SO did the same thing for a year but he was only seeing and talking to me. Now (not counting that year) we have been together for 3 years. I will say that I would stop talking to him if he was trying to date/hang out with other girls.

<blockquote><b>Quoting *~Bunny~Hump~*:</b>" You should read my previous post.. HIs reasoning is he's been through 2 divorces and blah blah.. ... [snip!] ... YEs we are having sex... and are ina n official relationship.. I just think he may be singling other chicks on the side.."</blockquote>




Oh. In that case I would stop talking to him. I wouldn't want to have to "compete" for his attention with other women.

Quoting *~Bunny~Hump~*:" You've been seeing a guy for about 4 months, and he told you he didnt' know what he wanted as far as ... [snip!] ... relationship anyway in hopes he will figure it out (if things were going good), or not talk to him until he figured it out??? "

I wouldn't continue it as a relationship more than friendship.

Sorry, I've grown up I know what I want and I've also learned those who don't know, wont know all of the sudden and I wouldn't want to wait around for years for him to figure out what he even wants out of life... not if he wants it with me, i understand relationships end because the people aren't right for each other... but he just doesn't know what he generally wants? Then no... I wouldn't waste time.