Having issues...

So SO and I aren't getting along hardly at all lately. It seems like everything for the past year has been smurffy. Right before I got pregnant, we were at our breaking point because he started being a smurffy boyfriend. He was being a jerk to me, wouldn't be physical whatsoever to me, and then I found out he was watching porn instead of being physical with me. I was at the point of calling it off because I was so fed up with him, then found out I was pregnant.
While I was pregnant, I was put on bedrest. He hardly texted me, he never came over to comfort me when I was in tons of pain from contractions, but if he had 'free' time he would come over. It was a very lonely pregnancy.
Anyways, after having my little one, hes been a great dad to him (for the most part) but hes still acting like a child. I seriously have to shower with him in order for him to not take an hour and a half shower because he will just sit in there with the water running, sometimes even fall asleep. I've been on him about brushing his teeth with me because his teeth have gotten terrible and I just nonchalantly say "hey come and brush your teeth with me!" But I have to fight him about it -.-.
The other day his mom was watching our son all day so that I could do work and he comes home from work and jumps on his computer to play batman... so I tell him to go get our son so that his mom doesn't have to continue watching him and he through a big fit over it. Its just little things hes doing that really bug me. I went to his work party yesterday and he yelled at me when I was being playful with him by playfuilly pretending I was going to put cake in his mouth, which is something he does to me all the time (hes very playful even when I tell him to stop).

I also have really bad postpartum and on meds that I am still increasing to help me out. I feel like my emotions and venting to him about things is effecting our relationship and causing him to not like me as much .__. and it scares me.

Also hes not physical with me hardly at all anymore... I just feel like things are falling apart   Idk...

counseling. I am all for couples counseling!!

you have to make him brush his teeth and shower..... wth!

Sorry sweetie. My relationship started off very rocky. We've been together 6 years now and still have problems but our relationship is waaaay better. I agree with the comment about counseling. It can really help you two understand each other and get on te same page. If u are Christian we do daily couples devotionals that help bring us closer together as a couple.

So you became a mother to two with a huge age gap?? He needs to grow up! :/

Quoting Jessica Lea Bell:" you have to make him brush his teeth and shower..... wth!"

 

I think there needs to be a serious talk between the two of you. You should not have to get your SO to take care of his personal hygiene. I mean my DH has off days but I don't have to force him to do it. He is an adult and can make his own choices.

In all seriousness...do you think he may be on something? Him falling asleep in the shower & not taking care of himself makes me think of this guy I know. His gf has to basically babysit him & force him to bathe/brush his teeth/help out around the house/even eat sometimes. I hope that's not the case. I hope he's just being a man child, especially since you two have a child together.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Brianna ♥ {38wks}:</b>" In all seriousness...do you think he may be on something? Him falling asleep in the shower & not taking ... [snip!] ... eat sometimes. I hope that's not the case. I hope he's just being a man child, especially since you two have a child together."</blockquote>
I was thinking drugs or depression.

Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Brianna ♥ {38wks}:</b>" In all seriousness...do you think ... [snip!] ... just being a man child, especially since you two have a child together."</blockquote> I was thinking drugs or depression."

Hes not on drugs, he hates drugs and drinking with a passion. I don't think hes depressed... he just takes long as crap showers and doesnt take care of himself like he should *shrugs*

<blockquote><b>Quoting RissaBbyGurl:</b>" Hes not on drugs, he hates drugs and drinking with a passion. I don't think hes depressed... he just takes long as crap showers and doesnt take care of himself like he should *shrugs*"</blockquote>
Was he like this before though? Or is it a new behavior?