get off when you have sex? I can't even remember the last time I got off with my husband. He got off three.times last night and I got off zero. It just didn't feel good.   I've even been.habing trouble getting myself off.

Every time. He makes sure I do before he does.


And now I'm reminded how angry I am that I haven't had sex in 3 months >:C

If it's getting harder to orgasm, there may be a couple of things to try.

1. You may be psyching yourself out. You just keep thinking about it and why it isn't happening and it just gets overwhelming and frustrating. A little wine to relax you, perhaps? Make sure that you are in the mood and really want sex right then.

2. You may be over-stimulating certain areas. Try taking it slow and trying different positions. If you're relying heavily on clitoral action, perhaps try not using mechanical toys and instead just use touch.

I went through a stint where I was impossible to get there and it was frustrating for both of us!

At least once every single time. He makes sure that I get to before we even starting having actual intercourse. lol.

Quoting she nan igans:" At least once every single time. He makes sure that I get to before we even starting having actual intercourse. lol. "

I can't do that. Once I'm done, I'm done. Everything starts to get over-sensitive and swollen and uncomfortable.

I've never thought about it but I wonder if that's weird of me  .

<blockquote><b>Quoting BrittanieY:</b>" If it's getting harder to orgasm, there may be a couple of things to try. 1. You may be psyching yourself ... [snip!] ... and instead just use touch. I went through a stint where I was impossible to get there and it was frustrating for both of us!"</blockquote>




I don't drink so the wine is a no go. It's just.so frustrating because it's getting to the point where DH doesn't even.want to have.sex with me because it's so much.work.  

Quoting Jude the Super Kinkster:" <blockquote><b>Quoting BrittanieY:</b>" If it's getting harder to orgasm, there may ... [snip!] ... frustrating because it's getting to the point where DH doesn't even.want to have.sex with me because it's so much.work.  "

That was us as well and it only makes it worse because now you're even more worried about it.

Try a bath and have him give you long massage and just see where it goes. Sometimes relaxing is the trick.

Quoting BrittanieY:" I can't do that. Once I'm done, I'm done. Everything starts to get over-sensitive and swollen and uncomfortable. I've never thought about it but I wonder if that's weird of me  ."

No, that definitely happens to me, too, lol! Thankfully, DH usually has held his in for so long trying to get me off, it doesn't take him very long to finish.

<blockquote><b>Quoting BrittanieY:</b>" That was us as well and it only makes it worse because now you're even more worried about it. Try a ... [snip!] ... worried about it. Try a bath and have him give you long massage and just see where it goes. Sometimes relaxing is the trick. "</blockquote>




I don't like when he touches me.

Every time. He won't get off unless I do.

Quoting BrittanieY:" I can't do that. Once I'm done, I'm done. Everything starts to get over-sensitive and swollen and uncomfortable. I've never thought about it but I wonder if that's weird of me  ."

Sometimes I'm like that, but then usually it just requires different positions that are less stimulating.

Quoting Jude the Super Kinkster:" <blockquote><b>Quoting BrittanieY:</b>" That was us as well and it only makes it worse ... [snip!] ... massage and just see where it goes. Sometimes relaxing is the trick. "</blockquote> I don't like when he touches me."

That sounds like a problem in itself  

Quoting Jude the Super Kinkster:" <blockquote><b>Quoting BrittanieY:</b>" That was us as well and it only makes it worse ... [snip!] ... massage and just see where it goes. Sometimes relaxing is the trick. "</blockquote> I don't like when he touches me."

That sounds like a problem...

<blockquote><b>Quoting T + T = A S G ♥:</b>" That sounds like a problem in itself  "</blockquote>




It's not just him. Lately I just can't stand it when people touch me. It makes my skin feel weird. It's so uncomfortable that I just tense up. Sometimes it even.hurts.

Quoting Jude the Super Kinkster:" <blockquote><b>Quoting T + T = A S G ♥:</b>" That sounds like a problem in itself ... [snip!] ... it when people touch me. It makes my skin feel weird. It's so uncomfortable that I nust tense up. Sometimes it even.hurts."

I'd look into that. Depression perhaps? Anxiety? That seems like the underlying cause.