Baby Daddy Left

I am due any day now and the father of my daughter left us when I was three months pregnant because we couldn't stop fighting. Saying he was going to still help with out daughter. But I haven't talked to him in a few weeks and he won't return my emails or calls and has been threatening my family. He has also started dating someone else with a new born daughter and he was there for the birth of her. I feel like he has left us to be a dad to some one else's baby. Is it wrong to feel like that? Is it wrong to be so upset? And how do I explain that to my daughter when she gets older and asks questions why her daddy isn't around?

It's not wrong to be upset, because he is wrong. That's just horrible. I wouldn't start worrying yet about what to say to your Daughter, because you never know what the future holds. But don't let his butt off so easily. The moment you can, file for Child Support. If he can help support another newborn that is not his, he can help support his own.

No it's not wrong. What he did was smurfed up. You tell your daughter the truth when she is old enough to understand.

But honestly, your baby isn't here yet, there is more than enough time between now and after she is born for him to step up. Concentrate on your pregnancy and the baby after... let him be.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Katy Mundell:</b>" I am due any day now and the father of my daughter left us when I was three months pregnant because we ... [snip!] ... to be so upset? And how do I explain that to my daughter when she gets older and asks questions why her daddy isn't around?"</blockquote>



You have every right to be upset about that! My son's " father" hasn't been there in two years and is now taking care of some other girl's baby plus another of his own, yet is still running his mouth saying crap ab me not letting him see his son. Only thing you can do is tell her the truth, that he just left one day. Its going to be hard, but hopefully you will find a man who will be there for her by the time she srarts asking questions. I got lucky so far.

And hope everything gets better for you, btw

Quoting Crystal Marie S.:" It's not wrong to be upset, because he is wrong. That's just horrible. I wouldn't start worrying yet ... [snip!] ... moment you can, file for Child Support. If he can help support another newborn that is not his, he can help support his own."

I agree with this. he sounds like an ass.

i don't want to put him on the birth certificate and i don't want money from him. He has not done anything for her and me or my family have bought everything that she has now. He wants to take her away from me and that makes me not want child support because I'm scared he will take her one weekend and I will never see her again. He told me I wasn't allowed to breast feed after she was 6 weeks old bc he deserved to have her spend the night with him at that point. I just don't know what to do and I've already told him if he took me to court i'd counter sue for full custody.

e was the sweetest guy ever until I got pregnant then he wouldn't do anything but sleep and play pool with his friends.

Quoting Katy Mundell:" i don't want to put him on the birth certificate and i don't want money from him. He has not done anything ... [snip!] ... at that point. I just don't know what to do and I've already told him if he took me to court i'd counter sue for full custody."

Don't let him scare you. If you're comfortable the way you are, leave it at that. I hope things go well... he sounds like a complete ass.

Quoting Katy Mundell:" i don't want to put him on the birth certificate and i don't want money from him. He has not done anything ... [snip!] ... at that point. I just don't know what to do and I've already told him if he took me to court i'd counter sue for full custody."

What a dick. You can breastfeed all you want, don't listen to him. If you are worried about him taking her and not bringing her back, then don't give her to him. As soon as the baby is born go to the courthouse and file for custody. Until everything is done with court, he has every right to keep the baby from you as long as he wishes...

<blockquote><b>Quoting Katy Mundell:</b>" i don't want to put him on the birth certificate and i don't want money from him. He has not done anything ... [snip!] ... at that point. I just don't know what to do and I've already told him if he took me to court i'd counter sue for full custody."</blockquote>



You don't have to put him on the birth certificate. And you can get child support and request no visitation rights for him if he's acting like that. And hon, don't worry what he tells you you can and can't do. He has no right. If you want to breast feed, do it. He has NO RIGHT telling you that you're not allowed to breast feed after six weeks. Who the hell does he think he is saying stuff like that?? That's wrong of him.

I understand where you're at to a certain extent. My husband wants to get a divorce. I haven't seen him in almost a month and our communication has reached its minimum. I don't know why he wants to leave but I have suspicions of another woman involved. I think men who don't step up and care for the women they get pregnant and their babies are worthless. Every woman deserves better than that. Our babies deserve better than that.

This sucks. It really does.

BUT....

Honestly men have no obligation to do anything for a child that may not even be theirs until the baby is born. I am NOT saying the child isnt his, but I am saying that ya know, the child isn't here yet. Paternity isn't established. So once the baby is here then, and only then, does the true obligation start.

I also think that guys should be able to sign their rights away if they dont want the child. And if the father isnt there, its NOT the end of the world. I got my ex out of our lives for 8 years now. He isnt needed. You dont need a guy, so if he is an ass... just stop talking to him, dont expect smurf from him, and move on.